flutterby7
New member
I’ve been putting off writing here for a while now. I often wonder what is wrong with me, and I wish I did not have to ask myself that question every day. I really hate it.
I don’t do anything anymore or see friends; I just lie in bed all day. I’m angry at myself for doing this and feeling sorry for myself but I cannot get out of this rut I’m in. I’m positive I have social anxiety although it has never being diagnosed. I’ve been extremely shy for a long time but now it’s interfering with my life and how I feel. I know it’s all to do with expectations. Especially if there is a person I feel I have to impress – I cannot function and be the person I am. This happens with my boyfriend. I hardly talk to him, I can’t make decisions, I won’t go anywhere with him (the cinemas or out for dinner) I reject all the invites to parties and I won’t meet his family or friends. I’m worried of embarrassing myself and people judging me. What if I make the wrong decision? What if everyone thinks I’m stupid?
Therefore this leads to me feeling depressed because I can’t act like I want to. It’s as if there is a barrier stopping me from what I want to do and say.
Also I feel like I’m paranoid a lot of the time. I have to re read everything I write many times and make sure I have nothing visibly wrong with me. I try to be as perfect as I can so people can’t criticise me.
Even at my school prom I couldn’t dance and enjoy myself. I found myself being in the toilets alone. This has also happened on other occasions. I avoid everything that causes me to feel uncomfortable.
I feel overwhelmed by everything. I went to a doctor once but it resulted in me crying and I found it hard to explain everything. I don't know if I need to be on medication or see a psychologist.
I apologise for the length of this and going on about myself but I just want some help and comfort and would like to know how you cope with things.
I don’t do anything anymore or see friends; I just lie in bed all day. I’m angry at myself for doing this and feeling sorry for myself but I cannot get out of this rut I’m in. I’m positive I have social anxiety although it has never being diagnosed. I’ve been extremely shy for a long time but now it’s interfering with my life and how I feel. I know it’s all to do with expectations. Especially if there is a person I feel I have to impress – I cannot function and be the person I am. This happens with my boyfriend. I hardly talk to him, I can’t make decisions, I won’t go anywhere with him (the cinemas or out for dinner) I reject all the invites to parties and I won’t meet his family or friends. I’m worried of embarrassing myself and people judging me. What if I make the wrong decision? What if everyone thinks I’m stupid?
Therefore this leads to me feeling depressed because I can’t act like I want to. It’s as if there is a barrier stopping me from what I want to do and say.
Also I feel like I’m paranoid a lot of the time. I have to re read everything I write many times and make sure I have nothing visibly wrong with me. I try to be as perfect as I can so people can’t criticise me.
Even at my school prom I couldn’t dance and enjoy myself. I found myself being in the toilets alone. This has also happened on other occasions. I avoid everything that causes me to feel uncomfortable.
I feel overwhelmed by everything. I went to a doctor once but it resulted in me crying and I found it hard to explain everything. I don't know if I need to be on medication or see a psychologist.
I apologise for the length of this and going on about myself but I just want some help and comfort and would like to know how you cope with things.