A Link I'd like to Share..
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Nicholas
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Thanks, interesting. Well, I already knew those things, somehow, but they always make me think. I know I can't expect support from other people, and that I have to support myself. But it just seems to difficult to accept to me. Something inside me tells me that I can't just rely on myself and forget about the others. I need other people to support me, I need attention, I need approval. Not everyone of course, but...
My views seems to agree with what I heard some time ago. A professor said that self-esteem is not something that only depends on ourselves. It's a misconception. It actually depends on the people around us and how they see us. No matter how good you are at loving yourself, if those around you don't like you or what you do, your self-esteem is not going to be alright. I think it makes a lot of sense... after all, even babies and young children rely on others' opinion and attention... "Mom, look at me! Look at me! Look at me!"
So I guess that to raise my self-esteem I would need to be around people who accept me for who I am. I don't know, this is one of the things that worries me the most... if that is really true, how do I surround myself with a few people like that? Where do I find new friends like those? Do I need to move? Do I need to found a community? Hmm.
My views seems to agree with what I heard some time ago. A professor said that self-esteem is not something that only depends on ourselves. It's a misconception. It actually depends on the people around us and how they see us. No matter how good you are at loving yourself, if those around you don't like you or what you do, your self-esteem is not going to be alright. I think it makes a lot of sense... after all, even babies and young children rely on others' opinion and attention... "Mom, look at me! Look at me! Look at me!"
So I guess that to raise my self-esteem I would need to be around people who accept me for who I am. I don't know, this is one of the things that worries me the most... if that is really true, how do I surround myself with a few people like that? Where do I find new friends like those? Do I need to move? Do I need to found a community? Hmm.
Thank you for the link