A Life of Fear

Lamb

Lamb

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ImNotMyIllness said:
It's like my amygdala is 10X too big!
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Made me laugh. *enlarged amygdala image floats in her vision* I feel the same.


Not sure I'm answering the question properly. I don't regret saying much because I don't often say things that I know I will regret. Then again, fear probably prevented me from saying alot of things that I was better off saying, instead of thinking it might hurt people. I don't think I've ever learned to stand up for myself.

I do regret having been so hard on myself for many years. It slowed down my ability to develop an identity and sense of character drastically. This killed my self-confidence, which I don't think I've ever gained back. I maybe started out with some in Pre-kay. If it exists, it's 10x too small. :rolleyes:

Mainly, it's caused me to stay away from college which is a huge regret. Also, moving out. Learning to swim, and resolving issues with my parents. The list can go on and on.
 
BlueDays

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ImNotMyIllness said:
I've been doing a lot of soul searching lately and I've realized that most of my actions and behavior have a common thread-FEAR. What I do and don't do seem to have fear in common. And, this has lead to a lot of problems in my life. Actually, it has ruined my life. It's like my amygdala is 10X too big!

So, how has fear played a part in your life?
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I know what you mean. Fear is what has stopped me from living my life to the fullest potential too.
I would not have spent so much of my life in hiding if the fear was not so disabling. It is such a waste because I could have achieved so much.

Do you think you will ever be able to find a way to overcome your fear?
 
coyote

coyote

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fear is just a feeling - it's not reality

we can choose how to respond to it

each choice is a step closer

toward freedom

or enslavement

which will it be?
 
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ImNotMyIllness

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BlueDays said:
I know what you mean. Fear is what has stopped me from living my life to the fullest potential too.
I would not have spent so much of my life in hiding if the fear was not so disabling. It is such a waste because I could have achieved so much.

Do you think you will ever be able to find a way to overcome your fear?
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I doubt I'll ever be able to overcome it. But, I'm not going to let that stop me. I want to take another college course (even though I have a degree). My insecurity and fear is at an all time high. I don't care. I'm going to do it. Regardless of how fearful or insecure I feel. I'm doing it and that's that! I'm sick of living life like this. And I'm going to keep moving forward.
 
BlueDays

BlueDays

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ImNotMyIllness said:
I doubt I'll ever be able to overcome it. But, I'm not going to let that stop me. I want to take another college course (even though I have a degree). My insecurity and fear is at an all time high. I don't care. I'm going to do it. Regardless of how fearful or insecure I feel. I'm doing it and that's that! I'm sick of living life like this. And I'm going to keep moving forward.
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Congrats on your determination to do another college course INMI! Good luck:thumbup:
 
IntheLabyrinth

IntheLabyrinth

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“There has never been a slave who did not choose to be a slave. Their choice may be between bondage and death, but the choice is always there.”

― George R.R. Martin

I thought of this quote by the oh so brilliant Tyrion Lannister after reading Coyote's quote. It is really hard to accept that it is our choice. I feel a lot better about myself when I can blame factors beyond my control but I know that does not help me one bit.

Fear has a staring role in my life story, which is probably the case with most of us. As far as what fear has kept me from doing, the list of specifics would be longer than an encyclopedia. In a general sense, it has kept from having friends and actually enjoying my time with the friends I do have, a wife/girlfriend, a career I am happy with, and much more but those are what I regret the most.
 
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ClovizKarts

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ImNotMyIllness said:
I've been doing a lot of soul searching lately and I've realized that most of my actions and behavior have a common thread-FEAR. What I do and don't do seem to have fear in common. And, this has lead to a lot of problems in my life. Actually, it has ruined my life. It's like my amygdala is 10X too big!

So, how has fear played a part in your life?
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making friends...
 
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laure15

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IntheLabyrinth said:
“There has never been a slave who did not choose to be a slave. Their choice may be between bondage and death, but the choice is always there.”

― George R.R. Martin
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I don't agree with this quote. I think about all those people from Africa who were kidnapped and forced to board a ship to the Americas. Then they were sold to slavemasters. What they went through was horrendous. These people didn't choose to be slaves.
 
IntheLabyrinth

IntheLabyrinth

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I fully agree that slavery is an abomination. The quote is not saying they chose between being free or being a slave if that is what you're implying. No one would make the choice to be a slave in that case. The point of it is that we are always free to choose, even if the only options are all terrible. In my case, I am free to choose to be alone or to try to make friends, which would mean the facing the extremely fearful sweating, heart palpitations, etc... Both choices suck but I am still free to make them.
 
IntheLabyrinth

IntheLabyrinth

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Choosing death would be a very hard choice to make, and it goes against our pre-programmed brain that tells us to survive and reproduce, but not believing there is a choice would mean that we are not really in control of our actions. I don't believe in destiny so I don't think that is what determines our choices.
 
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