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I decided to keep a journal-thread-thing. I know I haven't been here long, so sorry if it's kind of weird.
Writing this is kind of difficult for a number of reasons. Firstly, I'm really uncomfortable actually starting a thread, it feels almost, uh, narcissistic. Illogical, because other people's threads don't seem narcissistic or self-involved to me. I guess I'm just unused to it. I've kept a diary for years, and it used to provide me a comfort, a way to feel like I still existed despite spending most of my time disappearing, intentionally or otherwise. I guess now I just need a bigger fix. It's like getting my feelings out, but in a more public way. I'm hoping this will help me become a bit more sociable.
Hi, I'm Amp. I'm 26 and I have mental health problems. Since this is a forum for Social Phobia, I'll focus on that.
I've always been awkward around people. Even as a kid I couldn't really interact properly with people, I found it really hard to make simple requests, and I found it difficult to be sociable. As I've gotten older it's progressed to the stage where I barely leave the house. I don't like going out, I have panic attacks, and being around other people generally unnerves me. Strangely, going to a doctor's appointment or something like that isn't so bad for me.. the waiting room is tough, but the actual appointment goes fine. It's the social thing.
I'm in my final year of University. I know that seems like everything is easy, and I can't have a problem, but that isn't really the case. I do the vast majority of my work at home. In my first year, I attended the absolute minimum of classes, and last year, I attended even less than that. I never went to a lecture, as they don't take attendance, and I went to around six classes out of four twenty-four week modules. Though I get concessions because of mental health issues, it's really important for me to attend this year as the end of last year was really hard for me, completing a bunch of assignments with absolutely no direction. So that's my biggest challenge from here on.
I don't know how to interact in seminars. I haven't really talked so far, and I think if I do open my mouth now it'll just be weird as everyone assumes I'm mute, I think. I'm scared of having another panic attack.. I'm scared of making some strange noise or something in the middle of a lesson.. I'm scared of falling over... I've tried my absolute best to make myself invisible so that people don't really notice me, but it's hard to do as I'm overweight. Moreover, deep down, I don't really want to be invisible, I'd love to talk to people, but I can't see any of them wanting to talk to me.
The other big problem I have is re-thinking social exchanges.. I can't let things go. Sometimes, when I do speak, I say awkward things which I feel absolute shame for later that I can't shake. I revisit them over and over in my head, I analyse every word said by every participant of the conversation, and I get a sinking feeling of.. shame? despair? I don't know. It's awful. It even happens with Facebook.. I spend ages plucking up the courage to comment on someone's post, or message them about something, and then I feel awful about it after, especially when they don't reply.. I assume they're just wanting to delete me but don't have the heart.
Well, due to the prolixity of this post I should probably end this here. I'm sorry that I type so much, I think it's probably because I spend so much time not saying anything, it all spills out sometimes. If you've read this far, congratulations, have a lollipop.
Writing this is kind of difficult for a number of reasons. Firstly, I'm really uncomfortable actually starting a thread, it feels almost, uh, narcissistic. Illogical, because other people's threads don't seem narcissistic or self-involved to me. I guess I'm just unused to it. I've kept a diary for years, and it used to provide me a comfort, a way to feel like I still existed despite spending most of my time disappearing, intentionally or otherwise. I guess now I just need a bigger fix. It's like getting my feelings out, but in a more public way. I'm hoping this will help me become a bit more sociable.
Hi, I'm Amp. I'm 26 and I have mental health problems. Since this is a forum for Social Phobia, I'll focus on that.
I've always been awkward around people. Even as a kid I couldn't really interact properly with people, I found it really hard to make simple requests, and I found it difficult to be sociable. As I've gotten older it's progressed to the stage where I barely leave the house. I don't like going out, I have panic attacks, and being around other people generally unnerves me. Strangely, going to a doctor's appointment or something like that isn't so bad for me.. the waiting room is tough, but the actual appointment goes fine. It's the social thing.
I'm in my final year of University. I know that seems like everything is easy, and I can't have a problem, but that isn't really the case. I do the vast majority of my work at home. In my first year, I attended the absolute minimum of classes, and last year, I attended even less than that. I never went to a lecture, as they don't take attendance, and I went to around six classes out of four twenty-four week modules. Though I get concessions because of mental health issues, it's really important for me to attend this year as the end of last year was really hard for me, completing a bunch of assignments with absolutely no direction. So that's my biggest challenge from here on.
I don't know how to interact in seminars. I haven't really talked so far, and I think if I do open my mouth now it'll just be weird as everyone assumes I'm mute, I think. I'm scared of having another panic attack.. I'm scared of making some strange noise or something in the middle of a lesson.. I'm scared of falling over... I've tried my absolute best to make myself invisible so that people don't really notice me, but it's hard to do as I'm overweight. Moreover, deep down, I don't really want to be invisible, I'd love to talk to people, but I can't see any of them wanting to talk to me.
The other big problem I have is re-thinking social exchanges.. I can't let things go. Sometimes, when I do speak, I say awkward things which I feel absolute shame for later that I can't shake. I revisit them over and over in my head, I analyse every word said by every participant of the conversation, and I get a sinking feeling of.. shame? despair? I don't know. It's awful. It even happens with Facebook.. I spend ages plucking up the courage to comment on someone's post, or message them about something, and then I feel awful about it after, especially when they don't reply.. I assume they're just wanting to delete me but don't have the heart.
Well, due to the prolixity of this post I should probably end this here. I'm sorry that I type so much, I think it's probably because I spend so much time not saying anything, it all spills out sometimes. If you've read this far, congratulations, have a lollipop.