Jazzz
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Me.
It took about 2 minutes of reading the APD entry on Wikipedia to see that this is what has been torturing me my whole life. I matched up 100% with every symptom they listed, including dependency on a substance (marijuana).
Right now I'm 19, going to a community college, stay home all the time, stay high all day. I avoid people, I avoid their phone calls, and I'm insecure to a point of insanity. I have had beautiful girls who call my phone, including last night (new years eve), and I could probably hook up with any of them if I actually tried, but I can't. I'm too afraid.
I'd like to get more physically fit and I've had people try and pressure me to sign up at the local gym here, but the thought of working out around people is ludicrous to me. I could never do it.
I long for a relationship, but I'm so shy and insecure it doesn't even seem like a possibility. The thing is, though, you would never know this if I wasn't telling you. I put on such a mask around people that until they get to know me, they think I'm some social butterfly. I can speak with feigned and convincing confidence, as well as crack a few jokes, but it is all very forced. When I'm posed with a question that I didn't have a preconceived thought-out answer for, I stutter sometimes, as well as say things that come out all wrong and I end up being embarrassed about it for months, sometimes years. Sometimes I think about a time when I unintentionally said something that was taken as rude or stupid, and it still hurts so bad just thinking about it, as if it just happened. I obsess over things like this.
When I was young I played baseball and I didn't have problems like this. I was too shy to go to school dances back when I was about 10, but I could still go to the post-season baseball team party and be around all my teammates. Now the idea of even that is ridiculous. By the time I got to high school I knew there was no way I'd ever consider joining the high school baseball team. It got worse and worse as I was hoping it would get better. I thought I'd bloom in high school; the opposite happened. I was well known in high school. In fact, if I had actually spent time with all the people I met in school that liked me, maybe I'd have been one of the most popular guys there. But I couldn't. I never went to a party and always turned down meeting up with other people. There were times when I hung out with a friend or two of mine but that was it.
I've had a couple of people talk to me about my problem over the years, but they were "normal" I guess you could say, and they just couldn't understand. Maybe I could get some help here.
It took about 2 minutes of reading the APD entry on Wikipedia to see that this is what has been torturing me my whole life. I matched up 100% with every symptom they listed, including dependency on a substance (marijuana).
Right now I'm 19, going to a community college, stay home all the time, stay high all day. I avoid people, I avoid their phone calls, and I'm insecure to a point of insanity. I have had beautiful girls who call my phone, including last night (new years eve), and I could probably hook up with any of them if I actually tried, but I can't. I'm too afraid.
I'd like to get more physically fit and I've had people try and pressure me to sign up at the local gym here, but the thought of working out around people is ludicrous to me. I could never do it.
I long for a relationship, but I'm so shy and insecure it doesn't even seem like a possibility. The thing is, though, you would never know this if I wasn't telling you. I put on such a mask around people that until they get to know me, they think I'm some social butterfly. I can speak with feigned and convincing confidence, as well as crack a few jokes, but it is all very forced. When I'm posed with a question that I didn't have a preconceived thought-out answer for, I stutter sometimes, as well as say things that come out all wrong and I end up being embarrassed about it for months, sometimes years. Sometimes I think about a time when I unintentionally said something that was taken as rude or stupid, and it still hurts so bad just thinking about it, as if it just happened. I obsess over things like this.
When I was young I played baseball and I didn't have problems like this. I was too shy to go to school dances back when I was about 10, but I could still go to the post-season baseball team party and be around all my teammates. Now the idea of even that is ridiculous. By the time I got to high school I knew there was no way I'd ever consider joining the high school baseball team. It got worse and worse as I was hoping it would get better. I thought I'd bloom in high school; the opposite happened. I was well known in high school. In fact, if I had actually spent time with all the people I met in school that liked me, maybe I'd have been one of the most popular guys there. But I couldn't. I never went to a party and always turned down meeting up with other people. There were times when I hung out with a friend or two of mine but that was it.
I've had a couple of people talk to me about my problem over the years, but they were "normal" I guess you could say, and they just couldn't understand. Maybe I could get some help here.