Talking to other shy people

PhantomPod · Oct 13, 2005

Do you ever think it's easier to talk to other people who you notice are also shy, like yourself?

In one of my classes, I noticed that there's a shy girl in it, and I had this weird desire to talk to her. lol. i didn't though, i don't know why. Like the teacher called on her to answer something, and her face was turning beat red, then once the teacher went and called on someone else, I saw her start to fan herself with the piece of paper on her desk.

This girl even seemed more shy than me. Because the teacher called on me to answer something too, and I didn't really feel my face heating up like it really normally does and used to always do in the past.

And the girl had to answer a question about some career conference thing we had to go to last week, where you had to talk to people from different companies and try to make contacts or whatever. And she even said right out that she found it hard to really go up and talk to people like that, so she pretty much ended up just walking around.

pitkreet · Oct 13, 2005

PhantomPod said:
so she pretty much ended up just walking around.

:lol: I shouldn't laugh, but I know exactly the feeling. It pretty much sums up my life :roll: .

I'm usually drawn to people who are shy, the only problem is if they don't talk much, and i don't say much either, it gets pretty quiet.

The_9th_passenger · Oct 13, 2005

pitkreet said:
PhantomPod said:

so she pretty much ended up just walking around.

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:lol: I shouldn't laugh, but I know exactly the feeling. It pretty much sums up my life :roll: .

I'm usually drawn to people who are shy, the only problem is if they don't talk much, and i don't say much either, it gets pretty quiet.

:lol:
For me its easier because i'm not so shy that i can't talk. I used to be like that but i have improved quite a lot during the last 5 years. Still I feel more comfortable with shy people. And what's more- I always feel bound to be nice with a shy person.

allanboy · Oct 13, 2005

Sometimes it´s weird, cuz i feel this godamn familiar feeling when talking to someone shy. It´s like being someone talking to me, i try to be nice as hell.

Of course, there arent that many shys around here.

PhantomPod · Oct 14, 2005

i dont even have to talk to them i just like knowing theyre there and that they know how im feeling Smile

yeah, i like that thought. cause that's what I was thinking in class when I saw that girl. That she knows how I always feel most of the time, how she was blushing like mad.

and how she said she finds it hard to just go up and talk to people like that and that she really just ended up walking around, I was sitting there like yep, that's pretty much the same as me. lol.

JJenny · Oct 14, 2005

It brings out our compassion for others

and in doing so kind gives us some self loving and compassion too. The 'I"m not alone!!!" feeling.

Joszax · Oct 14, 2005

I know alot of shy people, but they seem to just be shy. I don't think i ever recognized a fellow social phobe in the real world, or at least one as severe as myself. Well, at least not recently. There has been one person who appeared to be more anxious than I was. Who had more problems interacting with people. He seemed so familar to me, but at the time, I was afraid of him. He seemed to represent so much in my life that I wished to reject. I looked at him more as a deadly temptation than a deadly human. I know I shouldn't have, but then I heard some people I knew talking about him and I thought "oh no! that is what people think of me when I enter that behavior!" I should of befriended him, but he really acted too eerily familar for me to handle myself.

black_mamba · Oct 15, 2005

worrydoll said:
oooh this thread reminds me of the huge one a year back about getting an sp symbol..like a vracelet or something..but generally you can tell when someones shy...i like it..i dont even have to talk to them i just like knowing theyre there and that they know how im feeling

Hehe yeah like the S&M community wear gold rose broaches or something like that, not that I'd know. (Look, fetish magazines are fun to read ok?) 8O

I think our international symbol should be a dried bogey hanging from one's nose.

sensitive · Oct 15, 2005

Believe me, if i were you i would talk to here. we even could be friends, who knows :roll: . talking to shy people must be easier, they also understand how we feel so i would't be afraid to talk to them.

2QuietForThem · Oct 17, 2005

I take college courses part-time, and I too have felt the urge to speak to a person who is quiet. I somehow managed to ask a question or something before class started. It was hard to do, but I handled it fine. The quick conversation never led to any friendships, however I was satisfied that I didn’t feel like I bombed out.

Tanya_S · Oct 17, 2005

shy people are definetly much easier to talk to than the outgoing types. I do find that i am not so SA affected during those times. Just wish i can find a few of them around at my university...

FaymeLevy · Oct 17, 2005

actually i find myself more at ease with someone who is completely opposite of myself. if they are really friendly and outgoing, then it takes alot of pressure off of myself to be entertaining. I've only ever had one friend who was shy like me, and it was way awkward. We always ended up doing nothing, cuz neither one of us wanted to make a suggestion. LOL

Scrabbl · Oct 17, 2005

I agree with faymelevy.. I'm comfortable with people who are completely opposite of myself. All the friends I've ever had are extremely outgoing and unsympathetic toward others. Like a friend I have now knows everyone in his school and everyone in my apartment building. ALso he is like the the one who has the loudest voice in his school. O It's a terrible thing because he likes to go to a nearby library to use the internet. And whenever he talks everyone in the library just looks over at him. He doesn't really care though.
Anyway, we kind of complement each other. and he's probably the only one I feel comfortable around. Unfortunately though, I'm moving soon.

Fighter86 · Oct 18, 2005

I tend to be able to talk to shy people better. I think its their shyness that make me more confident. Also, I feel that shy people tend to be less judgemental & more accepting of others...

magda74 · Oct 18, 2005

I'm much more comfortable around extroverted, wacky people. I'm terrible at small-talk and keeping a conversation going, so talking to someone too similar to me is difficult.
My bf is the opposite of me completely. He doesn't seem to notice other people at all. He's the life of the party and I hate to stand out in a crowd. Go figure :lol:

jss · Oct 19, 2005

yes I agree with you

I wish I could find any shy or sp person in my high school when i was in high school or in college these days

But it seems I am the only one having sp in my country :lol:

Fighter86 said:
I tend to be able to talk to shy people better. I think its their shyness that make me more confident. Also, I feel that shy people tend to be less judgemental & more accepting of others...

TheLoneWolf · May 9, 2009

thoughtless said:
I wish we had some kind of sensor that warned us about who is shy. That way we could make friends that were like us

*shy alert: really shy guy/girl at 0600 hours, wanting to start a conversation with you as well*

that would be heaven.... "shy, attractive girl due west has social phobia also, wants to just be with you" that would be the best thing ever

this_portrait · May 9, 2009

I've noticed that I tend to feel a little drawn toward people who are shy or who act like I do, especially if they practically mumble when talking to someone (because I practically do the same thing most of the time).

lettypagb · May 9, 2009

Shy peoples are not so nice like that , everytime I speak with one they give this weirdo look , like : get the f out of my way. Nerds are unfriendly too ,

Tiercel · May 9, 2009

I don't think I talk to shy people any more than I talk to any other type of people. And I really don't talk to other types of people any more than I absolutely have to. But engaging with typed conversations with anonymous strangers who may or may not be whom they claim to be? Not a problem.

Oh, but I always do help the elderly. Today I helped an old woman carry a heavy bag of crap to her car at a barn sale. I didn't get nervous at all, and even wished her a happy Mother's Day. So maybe there's hope for me yet.

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