Stuttering/mumbling when talking to people

I find that when I talk to some people I find that I can't really, idk, put the right words into my mouth? Or don't think about what order I should say them in.. :s So I end up stuttering a lot or have like a mind blank where I can't think what to say. Or I'll talk really quiet and rambly even though I know I should raise my voice more... It mainly happens when I am around people I don't know/outgoing sorts, like this really extrovert girl came up to me in technology class the other day just like trying to make conversation and asking me what I was making and I was like.. 'well it's er it's a base.. I'm.. it's a wooden base for an er.. a table lamp I'm making'.. lol something like that it makes me feel like a right idiot >_< I even get like it sometimes when I'm talking to my friends and I'm gonna explain something I'll end up stumbling over my words then like having to repeat myself about 2/3 times to express myself clearly..

If you have any comments or can relate or anything please post =]

I was surprised when i found out that people complain how quiet is my voice. Yap, sometimes i m also mumbling or even more often what you say - constructing a sentence , like i'm being totaly unspontaneous

I'm definitely a mumbler myself, and it's very annoying when people say they can't hear me and I have to repeat things 3 times. I had been looking into work answering phones, but with my quiet voice I doubt that'd be a good fit for me. The employers always say they're looking for someone with a "very professional business voice" and I'd be lying to myself and everyone else if I claimed to fit that description.

The same things happen to me, and the worst part is that I'm often asked to repeat what I have just said. I also talk really fast and I think it's hard to understand what I'm saying most of the time.

I mispronounce words and say them in the wrong order all the time! its really frustrating and a little embarssing too

sometimes I just dont know what to say at all, and say "uhhhh" for a really long time. always avoiding eye contact. im at a loss for words, and when I find them, I cant say them right! :evil:

I can't pronounce words properly and I stutter, and I find when I want to say something, it won't come out

oh yeh I hate it when people ask if you could repeat yourself.. well it's not so bad if they just ask you once but when it's like 2/3 times they ask it's embarassing.

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oh yeh I hate it when people ask if you could repeat yourself.. well it's not so bad if they just ask you once but when it's like 2/3 times they ask it's embarassing.

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yeah, specially when i repeat myself..and can't get my voice to come out any louder than the first time :roll:

also sometimes I start saying one word and then halfway through think of a better word to say, and begin to say that word....so I say a word that doesnt exist! lol I am usually better just staying with the first word, because I come out sounding stupid

I do! (stutter, mumble, speak in a tiny ridiculously high-pitched voice). I try to accept it.
I tend to be like "so what?" about it (here, a social phobic with her self-esteem :wink: ). It's my issue, I got anxiety trouble, I got voicing trouble, okay.

What's more of a problem to me is people's reaction. Too often someone's treating it like a disability, trying to protect me, pretending they didn't hear it etc. I wish they'd just say "I couldn't understand what you said, can you repeat?". Or even "you are having that squeeky voice again, what are you nervous about?"
Also, some time ago, kids in school used to laugh at it.
(I think I preferred the previous opennes -even a bit of deprecating humour- to .the present state, though.)



Question for you all: How do people react to your voicing problems ? How does it affect your communication with people?

I can relate.. I also talk way too fast most of the time! Because I feel so nervous. I hate it.

I find that when I'm really anxious I talk really slowly and cautiously. I find it hard to speak much louder than a whisper and I get really self-critical about the words I'm using- everything sounds either too flippant or too tortuously overwrought! I find it quite hard to speak spontaneously as I'm so aware of all the possible reactions that my mutterings could elicit. Talking is quite a painful process.

Hi everyone, Im new here but I like what I am seeing on here, especially this topic.
I have managed somewhat well with my social anxiety/phobia overall, but I too have had major trouble with talking too fast, mumbling, or talking in a overly-friendly high pitched voice...Almost as if I am uncertain about everything I say. This is especially true after I stopped taking zoloft, which I stopped because the side-effects for me were not worth the benefits. Im currently trying to cope without medication for a while but it truly is tough. Kind of like forcing yourself to learn socialization skills as an adult that you somehow did not develop or fully develop as a child. At least my problem is identified. I simply bought into the whole "oh he's just shy" or "he's just quiet" for most of my adolescent and adult years. Im sure a lot of you know where I am coming from.