Serious anger issues...

Daniel089

Daniel089

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I believe I have a really bad issue here, in my life. Please take this bloody serious: one thing irritates me so much, whenever I see a (mostly young) couple kissing or more likely snogging, I become so angry, jealous and start to hate the guy that I just wanna punch him in the damn face or hurt him. Though I never did, just ran into someone once by purpose.

This kind of thing happened to me like 15 min ago when I took the bus on my way home. A couple was sitting in front of me and they were snogging for long minutes. For some irrational reason I became so damn angry and strained my whole body & muscles, and I was just frickin ready to hurt that dude.

I don't say I never ever snogged before, but just a few times... Something is just wrong with me and I don't think how I can help it. I don't hang out with anyone, though I'm dating someone atm., it's really fresh...

I know, that visiting a psychiatrist, or going into some group therapies wouldn't help me. It's just not my thing. So if someone have any good advices, or methods, I'd be glad to hear! Thanks!
 
planemo

planemo

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Seeking professional advice is always best i think.

I'm intrigued to know what actually happened when you ran into someone on purpose... did you hurt him? did he retaliate?

there's obvious feelings of inadequacy here. and believe me if anyone knows about them it's me. the fact that you notice couples showing intimacy means that it's something you probably dwelling on at the moment. something about this behaviour is bringing up feelings of inadequacy and obviously rage.

perhaps you feel deprived when you see others engaging this way? i guess you have to reset your opinion about the whole intimacy thing. you're probably allowing it too much power by dwelling on it, and thus get a warped idea about it. your mind is probably attaching too much worth and emphasis on it, such that it's developed an unhealthy reaction to it.

i guess seeing it for what it is might help. if you see it as being something meaningless or trivial (to yourself) your reactions to it may change.

please whatever you do, don't give in to wanting to hurt anyone. it's really not worth it.
 
I

ImNotMyIllness

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Envy is one of the most dangerous of all human emotions. And, you sound like you could be a danger to society. You need to get help-seriously!

As far as other advice. When you think of hurting a guy for making out with his girlfriend, turn your energy into finding someone yourself. Could you imagine if someone wanted to inflict harm on your (or even worse) the girl you love, because you were having a moment?!

I hope you get over this sick jealousy...sooner the better.
 
Daniel089

Daniel089

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planemo said:
Seeking professional advice is always best i think.

I'm intrigued to know what actually happened when you ran into someone on purpose... did you hurt him? did he retaliate?

there's obvious feelings of inadequacy here. and believe me if anyone knows about them it's me. the fact that you notice couples showing intimacy means that it's something you probably dwelling on at the moment. something about this behaviour is bringing up feelings of inadequacy and obviously rage.

perhaps you feel deprived when you see others engaging this way? i guess you have to reset your opinion about the whole intimacy thing. you're probably allowing it too much power by dwelling on it, and thus get a warped idea about it. your mind is probably attaching too much worth and emphasis on it, such that it's developed an unhealthy reaction to it.

i guess seeing it for what it is might help. if you see it as being something meaningless or trivial (to yourself) your reactions to it may change.

please whatever you do, don't give in to wanting to hurt anyone. it's really not worth it.
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When I ran into someone it was just a small collision, nothing noticable... I never hurt anyone because of this but I always became envious.
 
mikebird

mikebird

Banned
My anger fires my boiler when controlling people get in my way. I'm easily poked. The outlet is shouting, and overrun ranting . I might be justified to cite antidepressant medication side-effects, but I steer away from this. I was similar by nature as a little kid with no medication.

It's difficult to curb my fury when I'm dismissed by phone or in meetings,
feeling like a caged animal.

Better with a one-to-one situation, and not groups. Large offices feels like being at junior school again. I've enjoyed bigger crowds such as a festivals. So many faces to see while moving around feels more comfortable than brief street encounters on the fly

As for being a 'danger to society', this is an ongoing judgemental issue. Jobfit
 
string3r

string3r

Active member
Sounds like jealousy. I too have similar thoughts (granted I don't want to punch them in the face or anything) but I'm able to control my emotions. You should probably see a doctor.
 
DukeOtakuNukem

DukeOtakuNukem

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I understand greatly what you mean!! I have the exact same emotion when approached with a scenario similar to yours. In fact, I have stopped going to public places, because I never want to feel that emptiness again. We also have another thing in common; we both hate psychologists, because they can be judgmental bastards, especially the one I had who was a hardcore right-wing nut, only insulted me when I explained to him my problems, and ever since not only stopped seeing psychiatrists, but rather develop an extreme hatred for most humans. I have your back if you need to talk to me!
 
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