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There is a point I reach in my drinking, maybe 2 or 3 drinks in, where I suddenly feel the urge to talk to people I care about. And it's a feeling of joy and goodwill toward my fellow man. I am currently in that state. What the fuck is that? Is it the disinhibitory release of the cobwebs of...

Yeah, totally! People that completely embrace their weirdness. I don't get it. Seems like they are just unabashedly being themselves. And that's really cool (unless they are a Nazi). I guess I'm always afraid of being mocked or made to feel like an idiot if I do that. Sucks.

Definitely agree with you there. Struggle without accomplishment (whether it be through lessons learned or some more tangible aspect, like getting an A on a test) is just struggle, period. I try to approach anything challenging with the "what I can learn here" or "how will this benefit me"...

I think struggle is an undervalued tool for growth. It's great for developing character and guts when approached with a learning and betterment mentality, imo. Congrats on the successful order. (y)

It's hard to be creative when you're a bundle of nerves. Having fun in a social setting means adopting a playful, confident attitude. When you're playful and confident, you're more creative. When you're nervous, that playfulness, confidence, and creativity are stifled and suffocated...

Why have I been treating life like it should be orderly? It's inherently disorderly and chaotic. I should embrace that.

The cycle of "making things worse": (1) I have little to no respect for myself because I see myself as a huge loser for various reasons. A part of this negative feeling is also knowing that I'm "bad" at socializing. These ideas pervade my every social interaction, which causes negative social...

That's a great fucking idea! Wish I thought of that when I first moved in with strangers. But I had no guts then and was completely clueless about what I could do as a "negotiator." I just "purchased at sticker price" so to speak.

I have experience with living with people I didn't know. In my experience, you'll have to learn how to be polite but not too polite with roommates and landlord. You'll learn how to put your foot down when you feel someone is overstepping your boundaries. You'll also realize that it will likely...

How do you get better at standing up for yourself? Stand the fuck up for yourself.

Really an amazing article. I read some of the author's other material as well. Really thoughtful stuff. I got a bit riled up reading it. Thank you for sharing it with me. I've felt the culture of hate, brutality, and dog-eat-dogness floating around me for most of my life that the author speaks...

Okay, so COVID is ongoing. Global daily infections have surpassed the quarter-million mark. The US's handling of this thing is offensive. Trump is an absolute moron going against the US's top medical advisor. The Southern states are hotbeds of ignorance that should be nuked this very instant...

Lately I've noticed that I have been judging people as if they are beneath--not me, necessarily, but--my ideas on how to live life well: their formulas are wrong because they don't think about what will lead them to true happiness, let life lead them instead of leading life, or make thoughtless...

Perhaps she's trying to build camaraderie in order to make you feel more comfortable so you can relay your problems to her more easily. If she's trying to get to know you, she might be trying to build a bigger picture of your character and circumstances. With understanding of the broader...

What you've just said sounds a great deal like "I like guys I can laugh with," which is completely fair and reasonable. "I like a guy that can make me laugh," stated as such at least, has a different explicit meaning. Put this way, an inordinate amount of pressure is placed on us guys to...

What is it with women that "want a guy that can make them laugh"? Are their lives so empty that they can't find any entertainment elsewhere in this age of information, and thus they need a personal clown to keep them entertained? That's the pessimistic view. Here's the positive one. Maybe what...

I don't think it's wise for you to lump half of humanity into one box of garbage. If anything you should lump all of humanity into that box.

No man is an island.