Richey
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So recently i've been involved in a group project for my course. the people in my group were nice to be around but i couldn't help but notice how overly pedantic they were to the finest detail. now you may be reading that thinking what am i complaining about? one thing i noticed was how rigid and unaffective their behaviour actually was. For instance we would review a report and there would be arguments over the use of words. it wasn't that the words being used weren't affective. it was more "we could use six other words that have the same meaning". This is fine because our ideas can be used if required but i just found it mostly wasted the teams time because it would cause arguments between team members and there was so much nit picking over meaningless formatting issues. I would pick out the obvious errors with documents which would be two/three lines while the other members had two or three pages of suggestions which gives you an example of how pedantic these people were. ....
Problem i found is that Pedantic individuals are condesending, somewhat overbearing, narrow minded and think THEY are the ONLY ones's who know anything and when you are in a situation like that then it becomes a constant tug of war because people have tunnel vision.
They claim to be perfectionists which in itself i find irritating. anyone who claims to be a perfectionist bothers me because someones method of reaching a result may be different to another persons. it also means to me that these people believe there is only one right way of achieving a goal. my dad is like this. he claims to be a perfectionist and that everything should be completed 100% and yet his open mindedness is non existant. He believes that failure is unacceptable. But any sientist will tell you that failure is just a result that didnt meet your expectations and thats how humans learn.
I believe this entire concept is partly why i have such low self-esteem and is what lead to social anxiety because i've been brought up by people and been around people who claim to be perfectionists and i have been taught that failure (or rather someone elses idea of failure) is a horrible thing rather then being taught that failure or rejection is actually a good positive step towards learning new experiences.
Im not sure ive explained this how i wanted to but i hope you understrand what i'm driving at here.
here is an article that sort of elaborates more what im suggesting.
Overcoming Perfectionism
This is also related to my behaviour of indecision. I seem to be very indecisive because of the fear of failure so often i dont try new skills or take as many risks as i could. same with applying for jobs or tackling homework. there seems to be the fear of failure that gets in the way of alot of things including making friends.
so really this is about the toxicity and influence these people have had on me. i'm not saying people should be sloppy and not pedantic but i'm talking about extreme, rigid, perfectionists that i find toxic to be around because they are sort of a walking contradiction. what i mean by that is they are often inflexible and non-spontaneous to ideas outside of the square and they firmly believe their way is the only way. or they read a set of rules and take it as gospel for everything.
to summarise even more i believe that my conditioning has sort of screwed me up, now i have to try and unwind what i've been taught.
Problem i found is that Pedantic individuals are condesending, somewhat overbearing, narrow minded and think THEY are the ONLY ones's who know anything and when you are in a situation like that then it becomes a constant tug of war because people have tunnel vision.
They claim to be perfectionists which in itself i find irritating. anyone who claims to be a perfectionist bothers me because someones method of reaching a result may be different to another persons. it also means to me that these people believe there is only one right way of achieving a goal. my dad is like this. he claims to be a perfectionist and that everything should be completed 100% and yet his open mindedness is non existant. He believes that failure is unacceptable. But any sientist will tell you that failure is just a result that didnt meet your expectations and thats how humans learn.
I believe this entire concept is partly why i have such low self-esteem and is what lead to social anxiety because i've been brought up by people and been around people who claim to be perfectionists and i have been taught that failure (or rather someone elses idea of failure) is a horrible thing rather then being taught that failure or rejection is actually a good positive step towards learning new experiences.
Im not sure ive explained this how i wanted to but i hope you understrand what i'm driving at here.
here is an article that sort of elaborates more what im suggesting.
Overcoming Perfectionism
This is also related to my behaviour of indecision. I seem to be very indecisive because of the fear of failure so often i dont try new skills or take as many risks as i could. same with applying for jobs or tackling homework. there seems to be the fear of failure that gets in the way of alot of things including making friends.
so really this is about the toxicity and influence these people have had on me. i'm not saying people should be sloppy and not pedantic but i'm talking about extreme, rigid, perfectionists that i find toxic to be around because they are sort of a walking contradiction. what i mean by that is they are often inflexible and non-spontaneous to ideas outside of the square and they firmly believe their way is the only way. or they read a set of rules and take it as gospel for everything.
to summarise even more i believe that my conditioning has sort of screwed me up, now i have to try and unwind what i've been taught.
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