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This is just a curiosity if others do this too?

Ive always felt with my shyness that I usually take big prevalent steps to make the other person feel comfortable with me or within any situation around me. Usually if its at my house, but also just about anywhere.

I find that Ill overcompensate, even stomping on my own comfort and boundaries to do so. I just cannot stand any bit of unease or insecurity from the person I am with - as it reminds me of my own I guess. If they feel insecure- Ill feel it too etc.
Ill also jump to say or do something to make an awkward situation less awkward.

But its funny tho, because I've noticed that some people with shyness won't do this. They will just instead be a viewer of the awkwardness without being self-conscious of themselves doing so (so it seems). Perhaps freeze (?).

In any case I realise that its so much energy trying to please people your with all the time. It ends up getting very over-taxing on your own needs.

I guess there is 2 or more types of social anxiety; one where the person feels like they have over-compensate and control situations and the 2 - where the person will just retreat into themselves.
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when i laugh at situations i actually do feel that it's funny but now that you brought this up it might just cause people to feel more uneasy if they're not like that but then again it might cause them to be more easy on their own like they might laugh too on the inside
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