Lonely cycle ~ It's impossible to make friends

Because that would include approaching someone first and introducing yourself and I feel so creepy and desperate whenever I'm doing something like that...
Really. Just the thought of going up to a stranger and saying "Hi"... It seems like a good idea, but then when I want to do it I feel like I'd be intruding. And I'd seem too creepy. And desperate to make friends.
I've made friends through friends... So far that's the only way I've been getting along. But these friends just don't seem to be my type.
I've even had people tell me to "go out and take the leap of faith" with a new person, but I can't do it. I really can't. In order (for me!) to make a friend someone has to approach me first or acknowledge me. And that's only happened like once in the passed like 4 years |:

I know what you mean. Most of my friends were made through other friends. I never really initiated direct contact. My friends just introduced me to other people and it went from there. It's hard to actually make a friend, to initiate contact yourself and with no one's help. I actually made my first friend by myself this past year... Not my first friend ever, but I mean I made my first friend completely on my own, in a long time. It's hard, but once you get started talking, find some interests, common ground, it feels great. Mind you, I knew this person a year before I ever opened up to them. Yeah it takes me that long to warm up, even a little, to someone.

Hi


5char

ahhh... well, like anything in life, I believe you have to work for what you want.
Friends aren't just magically going to come to you, you'll have to put yourself out there and be available to hurt feelings and heartaches as well as all of the good things that comes with having friends.

Hard work and a positive attitude are the two main ingredients to being happy!
...probably.
haha
It's easy enough to say these things-- much harder to put them into practice.

Yeah i relate, no clue on how to make friends, mision imposible ::

HeadFace said:

I've made friends through friends... So far that's the only way I've been getting along.

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Phoenixx said:

I know what you mean. Most of my friends were made through other friends. I never really initiated direct contact

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And this first friends were made how?

shybutsexy said:

Yeah i relate, no clue on how to make friends, mision imposible ::




And this first friends were made how?

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Through my ex who I met through my cousin

also someone else approached me first.

Phoenixx said:

I know what you mean. Most of my friends were made through other friends. I never really initiated direct contact. My friends just introduced me to other people and it went from there. It's hard to actually make a friend, to initiate contact yourself and with no one's help. I actually made my first friend by myself this past year... Not my first friend ever, but I mean I made my first friend completely on my own, in a long time. It's hard, but once you get started talking, find some interests, common ground, it feels great. Mind you, I knew this person a year before I ever opened up to them. Yeah it takes me that long to warm up, even a little, to someone.

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Ha.. Yeah. It took me like... 6 monthes to warm up to my last friend.
Though I met this other person who had great charisma who I warmed up to in less than a month. So I think it depends on the person.

SeniorRedrings said:

Hi


5char

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Hi uh.
uhm... Sorry... What?

shybutsexy said:

And this first friends were made how?

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^ My first friends were made in elementary school, when I didn't have a problem with SA. My SA never occurred until I was 13, after being teased and such. Thankfully a few of the friends I made in elementary school stayed with me through high school too.