Pessimisten
Member
I don't know if this has already been discussed here or not. I don't know either if this is the right forum, but how many of you people are loners?
Loneliness
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Psycho_Pericles
Member
I'm a loner! 
Except I don't want to be one. I'm working on making some more friends & being more social.
Except I don't want to be one. I'm working on making some more friends & being more social.
Scottish_Player
Well-known member
I wouldnt say iam a loner but i do spend alot me time on my own than the average person,but i would say that this is through choice and not by me being not liked.The only reason i like to be on my own is that i feel more comfortable.
"Its not that people dont want to know me its that i dont want to know people" as i said in an earlier post
I get invites throught work with work mates,to see if i wanna do anything at the weekend or after work,the people i work with change about twice a year and after a few invites i think they realise iam not going to join in with them they stop asking. i better shut up now iam going away of topic :lol:
"Its not that people dont want to know me its that i dont want to know people" as i said in an earlier post
I get invites throught work with work mates,to see if i wanna do anything at the weekend or after work,the people i work with change about twice a year and after a few invites i think they realise iam not going to join in with them they stop asking. i better shut up now iam going away of topic :lol:
LazerCarp
Well-known member
ive got a lot of friends for some reason, i have no idea why thats 1 thing that really confuses me. I know 90% of the time I am a dickhead due to the social phobia and am too quiet or talk bollocks but still manage to have found mates- it really puzzles me. I still feel really awkward around most of them though and cant connect properly, if that makes sense.
dazz
Active member
i've gotten more lonelier over the past few years, got to the point where i only have 1 friend left
i started college Feb 04, and i have lots of "friends" in my classes .. i just have trouble communicating with them, i sort of just follow them, where ever they go, i go .. im just like in the background.. lurking
Sometimes i enjoy being on my own, then again, sometimes i dont.. i get all depressed and shit
Scottish_Player i take it your from Scotland too m8? Where abouts you from?
i started college Feb 04, and i have lots of "friends" in my classes .. i just have trouble communicating with them, i sort of just follow them, where ever they go, i go .. im just like in the background.. lurking
Sometimes i enjoy being on my own, then again, sometimes i dont.. i get all depressed and shit
Scottish_Player i take it your from Scotland too m8? Where abouts you from?
LazerCarp
Well-known member
yeah i get that too. does anyone else get that thing where u forget really simple words coz u r thinking about what u say to much? its the bane of my fucking life. i developed a wierd stutter too. the odd thig is i would have described myself as very self-confident until about 3 years ago.
katienc478
Member
I'm a loner. The only true friend I have is my bf. And family members. When I was in middle school (before I had social phobia) I had at least 20 friends. I was a very sociable teen. I don't know what happened.
If anyone know what it's like to be lonely I'd have to raise both hands.
Since pre-teen I have had no friends or involvement with other humans in general. I have 2 family members but I still feel lonely like they weren't even there.
I loneliness stems from the inability for interpersonal relationships. I don't want a friend, I want a partner to love and be loved by. Ofcourse, easier said then done because I have 5 different massive disabilities (disorders, depression, anxiety, introverted and one which I would not date mention here) that prevents me from even attempting to find or connect to someone like that.
I try lots of things to prevent me from being lonely but they never work.
I cry every single day because I feel so lonely. I cry so much that I often give myself a headache. I am pessimistic anyway so I think that it's always gonna end in a bad way.
But I assure you, I live on a daily basis with being lonely and crying.
Since pre-teen I have had no friends or involvement with other humans in general. I have 2 family members but I still feel lonely like they weren't even there.
I loneliness stems from the inability for interpersonal relationships. I don't want a friend, I want a partner to love and be loved by. Ofcourse, easier said then done because I have 5 different massive disabilities (disorders, depression, anxiety, introverted and one which I would not date mention here) that prevents me from even attempting to find or connect to someone like that.
I try lots of things to prevent me from being lonely but they never work.
I cry every single day because I feel so lonely. I cry so much that I often give myself a headache. I am pessimistic anyway so I think that it's always gonna end in a bad way.
But I assure you, I live on a daily basis with being lonely and crying.
I've become a loner since I dropped out of school, but I don't want to be anymore. I thought I prefered it, but now I've developed even more mental problems like insomnia that I believe is due to lonliness and an ED which I never had before this year. Anway I've gotten a job as a waitress for summer. I'm trying to break these loner habits so I can move on and live a life with no regrets...
despise
Well-known member
im still in school...yr 11. and my "group" has about 6 people in it (used to have 11 but alot of them dropped out after yr 10.) im really close to 2 of these people..and the other 4 i dont really talk to as much. i dont talk to anyone outside my group unless im spoken to or i absolutely must. so..without my friends i am a loner. i need them. im just greatful i have atleast one of them in all my classes...the last two years were horrible.
firelily
Member
Sometimes I quite like being a loner. I enjoy bike riding, bushwalking, kayaking and that type of thing where theres not a stack of other people around trying to organise me (hence why I really hated organised sport at school. Yuk). Other times i'd do anything to get some great people around me who i was comfortable with etc.
SomeGuy
Member
I'm a loner and I feel terribly lonely.
I probably want significantly more alone time than most people, but life with extremely little human contact feels kind of pointless. Sometimes I feel quite socially adequate, but then come the inevitable reminders - Christmas on my own, birthdays on my own, holidays spent entirely by myself.
I feel so ashamed on those rare occassions when someone at work asks me what I did on some special occassion or during some time off. I try so hard to pretend to be normal at work, but with a question like that I can either lie or "out" myself as a pathetic figure.
"What did you do over Christmas?"
What am I supposed to say? "Well, I unwrapped the present I gave myself and then sat there on my own"
I probably want significantly more alone time than most people, but life with extremely little human contact feels kind of pointless. Sometimes I feel quite socially adequate, but then come the inevitable reminders - Christmas on my own, birthdays on my own, holidays spent entirely by myself.
I feel so ashamed on those rare occassions when someone at work asks me what I did on some special occassion or during some time off. I try so hard to pretend to be normal at work, but with a question like that I can either lie or "out" myself as a pathetic figure.
"What did you do over Christmas?"
What am I supposed to say? "Well, I unwrapped the present I gave myself and then sat there on my own"
SomeGuy
Member
worrydoll said:
Pet Peeve: I hate it when articles like this say things like "social approval is a need, not a desire". (A cousin to the old chestnut "everybody needs to be loved")
It makes me feel like my existence is being denied. It may well be true that humans can't be happy without such things, but it doesn't stop them from living. People who don't get social approval (or love) are all around and many live that way for their entire lives.
You can go on without social approval, you can go on without love. All this "need" talk (unintentionally) brushes a significant minority under the carpet.
For me it's mainly a want. I don't want to be happy unless I am loved.
These articles are based on non-evolution or non natural selection. Do you expect humans to still be completely social like they are today, in say..2 million years?
Everyones needs are different, end of story.
No human is exactly the same.
These articles are based on non-evolution or non natural selection. Do you expect humans to still be completely social like they are today, in say..2 million years?
Everyones needs are different, end of story.
No human is exactly the same.