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Old 09-01-2013
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I’m in this Christian group that I go every week, well once a week. I’ve been going for years, well to be honest on and off because I feel left out. I’ve got nothing in common with anyone there, when I tell a story that I think it’s funny they interrupt me, it’s annoying: for example.
I do music Pop and Rock all vocational course in college and my teacher told us this story “I was living with my mum and we was in a flat. In the 80’s you know those deep frying electronic things, well it’s the first one made and in the 80’s very dangerous aha. So I was cooking in the Kitchen some chips. My first time just remember that aha. I was watching TV so I left the chips in there a bit too long, then I heard something crackling. I walked to the kitchen thinking to myself ‘I think I might check it I might be burnt’ just suddenly it blow up and went through the ceiling and through the other people apartment”
All my class couldn’t stop laughing
When I told the Christian group they were appalled, somewhere laughing and some, well didn’t like the story they said “oh what a stupid thing to do” well something like that. I guess it’s one of those stories that it wasn’t to be laughed at then, but in a couple of years’ time you laugh about it.

I’m going to University soon, but I’m staying at home for the year then I’m leaving to Halls, but even then I feel under pressured to stay in this group.

Anyway, I’ve got nothing in common with them no films, no books, no TV shows, no music and no sense of humour. Only god, I guess where I’m coming from when I talk they kinda blank me out.
Also, I feel under pressured to keep going to the Group because it’s my Christian faith. It’s only because all my friends are none Christian and even I’ve got one friend Muslim she’s lovely even she’s one of my best friends.

What should I do?
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try another church for now and find Christian groups at your college when you go
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I joined a Christian group in my 1st year of college but that didn't work out. Even though we all believed in God, it was the only thing we had in common. Many of the "sisters" I met were older than me by at least 7 years and were much more mature. Moreover, all they seemed to want to talk about was Jesus and the Bible. I wanted to discuss things like manga, anime, school, and other issues but they don't have a lot in common with me besides God. They're more "hardcore" when it comes to religion and stuff, and they tried to get me to study the bible. I eventually left the group because I couldn't keep up with the energy and expectations. I felt like a hypocrite. Even the singing was kinda forced.

I can see why some people move through friends every few years. They get tired of hanging out with the same old people so they find new ones. Is there such thing as a "best friends forever?" I've seen "one-day friends" and "one-week friends" but lasting friendships are hard to find. Even people grow out of hobbies that they used to enjoy with their friends.
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Sometimes I wonder if it really is a big Deal to get worked up over friendships.
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Personally, I'd quit the group if they can't be nicer to you than that. I feel bad telling you to quit, but it's my honest opinion. What about trying a different group?
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Old 09-02-2013
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I would definitely leave the group. You don't have to feel pressured to stay in a group that consists of people who don't value your input and who you have nothing in common with just because of your faith. I would look for another Christian group to join and see how that works out.
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Old 09-02-2013
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Originally Posted by jc972 View Post
Personally, I'd quit the group if they can't be nicer to you than that. I feel bad telling you to quit, but it's my honest opinion. What about trying a different group?
I was thinking of leaving the group for quite some time now, but because of my faith I stayed. However I'm going to University soon, so I'm planning to look for something there. Thanks for the advice by the way it really helps
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