How can I stop being so sensitive?

I live in fear every day, dreading that someone is going to say something because I am so sensitive to comments made about me. I'm so sensitive that when someone says something about me, even if it's just in a jokey way I often feel like crying, and I can never think of a comeback so I just sit there quietly pretending that stuff said to me don't hurt me.

You were sheltered. Blame your parents.

I am the complete opposite. I was out there and they taught me to never come back.

Self Esteem

Build your self esteem.
Goto You Tube and look for self esteem videos.
This will give you an inner strength to combat critcism.
When someone criticises you, you will think I will hit back at that person or that person is out of order.
At the moment you're thinking what's wrong with me.

SocialRetahd said:

You were sheltered. Blame your parents.

I am the complete opposite. I was out there and they taught me to never come back.

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Blame them to who? And what's the point.

So, your story is different, but the result is similiar. (You said that in the time bullies had stroken you , you already had SP. how is that?)

Dealing with being very sensitive.

Here is something that I find works for myself. And others have told me sometimes it can help them.

1) Some makes a remark/comment. You can feel in your stomach an uncomfortable feeling. A disturbance. This is your emotional dashboard.

2) You might try replying, "why do you say that?"

3) They reply...and you are not sure you understand.

4) So you say "could you explain the basis of your thought."

5) they give you an answer, which still does not make sense.

6) You reply, "I still don't get it. Can you try again. "

This happened to me last night. A small group of 5 men were gathered for a meal in a cafe. One of them said, "Bob you missed a good conference on the weekend."

Now my first reaction was that he was judging me for making a decision NOT to go.

I ask him, "what did you get out of it".

So we talked in that question and answer mode.

I still don't understand what he was on about ...but I came away with an understanding that he felt better for having gone. So it was all about him, and nothing about myself.

So at the end I was at peace. And he felt that someone was interested in what he had to say.

Does that make sense?