Hate being lonely, but hate being around people

gsmax5

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I will either have to find a way to enjoy being lonely, or enjoy being around people.

I wouldn't hate being around people so much if communication were like it is in dreams. When I am talking to someone in my dream, my main focus is on the subject of the conversation, rather than on how well I am conforming to stupid social norms.
 

Feathers

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I will either have to find a way to enjoy being lonely, or enjoy being around people.

I wouldn't hate being around people so much if communication were like it is in dreams. When I am talking to someone in my dream, my main focus is on the subject of the conversation, rather than on how well I am conforming to stupid social norms.

Yup, that's the idea!! :) Most people are focused on the subject of conversation anyway!!
You can also observe beautiful surroundings (eg if you're walking with someone or in a nice new place etc)

I can sometimes relate to your title lol. I sometimes REALLY enjoy being alone - it's different than being 'lonely' - eg if you're doing exactly what you WANt to be doing - reading a GREAT book etc, sollitude can be VERY enjoyable... Maybe think of some activities you like to do alone...? Or some things you always wanted to try??

When being around other people you can also 'add' (interesting things) or 'reduce' (any overwhelm-inducing things). eg some people write topics to talk about on a piece of paper :) or at least think about it in advance and write down, even if not refer to it later..

Maybe you can write down 'obstacles' to enjoying time alone or with people, and we can help more easily?
 

Mondo

Member
I Hate being lonely, but I hate being around people...:confused:

I live in a dorm with 6 guys. And i really like my room. But being alone too much can **** (swearing allowed here? will check later...)with my head and I get squirelly. So I head up stairs and 10-20 mins of social time puts my head into the right perspective again. I understand your predictment and dilema, but I need some social outlet and recognition in life to stay sane.
 

Srijita52

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I'm exactly same. But maybe there's a middle way, like if you spend the whole day doing anything social, you can spend the evening all by yourself. That way you get to be around people and also manage to have some alone time.
 

Ashiene

Well-known member
Difference between alone and lonely: Alone = devoid of physical, social contact. Lonely = no social contact at all (not even online).
 
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