hexagon_sun
Well-known member
I know... I know... What a ridiculous premise; that paranoia can be productive!! Well... it can! You first must understand what paranoia is…
Paranoia: a tendency on the part of an individual or group toward excessive or irrational (less than rational) suspiciousness and distrustfulness of others -Merriam Webster’s Dictionary
What that means is you HAVE cause for suspicion which may have been overstated, blown out of proportion, misinterpreted.
The reason I added "less than rational" is to suggest that paranoia is a spectrum rather than simply black or white (paranoid or not). There are those who are irrationally or perhaps clinically paranoid (One flew over the coo-coo's nest) and those who are justifiably paranoid (former intelligence agents for example). Being "paranoid" or if you prefer the less pejorative term "vigilant" can been seen as a skill that can be refined for a greater level of discernment; eliminating future false positives.
The only way, short of going through "spy training" to acquire this knowledge is through experience. Learning through experience necessitates a number of failures along the way. Failure should be expected and are par for the course provided that one learns lessons from those failures.
Expect to fail SMALL now, so you don't fail BIG in the future...
If there are those who are not willing to forgive you when you admit making a mistake, I promise you, you DO NOT want to associate with these people ANYWAY!
An unfortunate, and infrequently addressed reality of dealing with SA is elimintating ties with people that damage our self-esteem on a consistent basis. You may not even realize it is going on... Family members, friends, bosses coworkers. You don't need to put up with it. Somewhere, there is a place suited for each one of us. Keep thinking that!
Paranoia: a tendency on the part of an individual or group toward excessive or irrational (less than rational) suspiciousness and distrustfulness of others -Merriam Webster’s Dictionary
What that means is you HAVE cause for suspicion which may have been overstated, blown out of proportion, misinterpreted.
The reason I added "less than rational" is to suggest that paranoia is a spectrum rather than simply black or white (paranoid or not). There are those who are irrationally or perhaps clinically paranoid (One flew over the coo-coo's nest) and those who are justifiably paranoid (former intelligence agents for example). Being "paranoid" or if you prefer the less pejorative term "vigilant" can been seen as a skill that can be refined for a greater level of discernment; eliminating future false positives.
The only way, short of going through "spy training" to acquire this knowledge is through experience. Learning through experience necessitates a number of failures along the way. Failure should be expected and are par for the course provided that one learns lessons from those failures.
Expect to fail SMALL now, so you don't fail BIG in the future...
If there are those who are not willing to forgive you when you admit making a mistake, I promise you, you DO NOT want to associate with these people ANYWAY!
An unfortunate, and infrequently addressed reality of dealing with SA is elimintating ties with people that damage our self-esteem on a consistent basis. You may not even realize it is going on... Family members, friends, bosses coworkers. You don't need to put up with it. Somewhere, there is a place suited for each one of us. Keep thinking that!