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Bullying in the Workplace
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Richey
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great video !!!! the differences between leaders and bullyers are illustrated really well.
my thoughts are that it seems to be possibly common on "building site" type environments or just in large group environments where cliques exist, or where hierarchy is in the air. having a situation where contractors mix with permanent staff or where supervisors/staff are competing for a "spot". if that makes sense.
there will always be people with the urge to show leadership, using arrogance, some will use empathy, some use humour, playing the game so to speak, and some do it well.
most of the time people will be pleasant, which is something remember, people don't like arguments, but there will be some who are difficult.
The biggest issue is when people step over the line, from obvious humour/sarcasm to obvious bullying.
i've worked in certain places where i had to partner up with "angry" personalities. One would actually shout over very small things, and i mean unwarranted situations, they weren't even managers, just regular staff.
I've seen it happen with other people as well, most of the time the person leaves the job. Firstly they will speak up about it and management will require both people to sort it out, so the bullying one or the bullied one either shake hands or one of them leaves. generally.
i think the best way to look at it, is to distinguish between the ones trying to be funny and dealing with them the best you can (thinking of comebacks), and knowing when it's clearly bullying.
but my advice is to leave if it ever occurs. if it feels wrong, walk out. now that may not seem feasible on the surface, but that is why a backup income is so important!
I cannot stress how important it is to have either a 2nd job or a 2nd income for moments where you've had enough in your main job, it may make you a bit more tired but it means you can cover both avenues of either sorting the problem out or leaving.
my thoughts are that it seems to be possibly common on "building site" type environments or just in large group environments where cliques exist, or where hierarchy is in the air. having a situation where contractors mix with permanent staff or where supervisors/staff are competing for a "spot". if that makes sense.
there will always be people with the urge to show leadership, using arrogance, some will use empathy, some use humour, playing the game so to speak, and some do it well.
most of the time people will be pleasant, which is something remember, people don't like arguments, but there will be some who are difficult.
The biggest issue is when people step over the line, from obvious humour/sarcasm to obvious bullying.
i've worked in certain places where i had to partner up with "angry" personalities. One would actually shout over very small things, and i mean unwarranted situations, they weren't even managers, just regular staff.
I've seen it happen with other people as well, most of the time the person leaves the job. Firstly they will speak up about it and management will require both people to sort it out, so the bullying one or the bullied one either shake hands or one of them leaves. generally.
i think the best way to look at it, is to distinguish between the ones trying to be funny and dealing with them the best you can (thinking of comebacks), and knowing when it's clearly bullying.
but my advice is to leave if it ever occurs. if it feels wrong, walk out. now that may not seem feasible on the surface, but that is why a backup income is so important!
I cannot stress how important it is to have either a 2nd job or a 2nd income for moments where you've had enough in your main job, it may make you a bit more tired but it means you can cover both avenues of either sorting the problem out or leaving.
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Opaline
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Perfect timing for me... I work with a bunch of bully-type people. They're not exactly mean all around, so not sure if they really qualify as bullies but, well... they're still a-holes a lot of times. I don't know. They're really patronizing.
Common problem... not sure, guess I haven't had enough real work experience to say. Probably, though, knowing how people are... But I'm cynical
Common problem... not sure, guess I haven't had enough real work experience to say. Probably, though, knowing how people are... But I'm cynical
Richey
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Perfect timing for me... I work with a bunch of bully-type people. They're not exactly mean all around, so not sure if they really qualify as bullies but, well... they're still a-holes a lot of times. I don't know. They're really patronizing.
Common problem... not sure, guess I haven't had enough real work experience to say. Probably, though, knowing how people are... But I'm cynical
I think it depends. If it's harsh sarcasm with implied humour then the best way to deal with it is to laugh or to think of a comeback and to just tolerate it, because that is common. but when it becomes manipulative or if it's targeted and used against you or if it's very personal statements, you can tell when its too much. The way you know is if the person uses the same tone and words with other people, or if its just you being targeted all the time.
One thing a therapist suggests is to actually respond with "you know i find that offesnsive", but say it with force, don't shout but with emotion behind it. And that should work. It would at least shut them up and the bullying one may actually apologise and thank you for "letting them know it was too far".
i've seen other people leave jobs because of it, like literally walk out, and that isn't necessarily a bad decision. because it's a solution.
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