unable to express feelings

[cowboyup]

I know this is really low priority on the 'worry about this' list but ...

and It's quite silly...

I used to be able to do things for others like on their birthdays, holidays, plan small birthday party or baby shower, for example. But since I've lost my job and my SA is really not at a 'under control' level, not having much money, etc., I am unable to do these things and I feel like my 1 friend doesn't really 'know' that I am capable of being nice or giving and they really don't know the real me.

This is dumb of me to think this, right? I shouldn't even worry and be thankful I have a friend.

But...does anyone ever get that feeling like you are full of so much more yet are unable to express it?

Hope you can follow this...my mind is not letting me think straight

 

[BlueDays]

Can you "be nice" in other ways that don't require you to deal with a lot of people and you don't need to spend any money to do?

If you know that your friend needs help with anything, could you offer to do them favours etc. Showing your friend that you are a giving person, but with your actions in giving your personal time and effort to help.

 

[Razzlecherry]

I think I understand what you mean. If I'm present with a friend and they need help, I'll beat myself in the head saying "offer some assistance" or "help them out". I just can't bring myself to do it, even though I want to and have no problems in doing so.

 

[cowboyup]

Can you "be nice" in other ways that don't require you to deal with a lot of people and you don't need to spend any money to do?

If you know that your friend needs help with anything, could you offer to do them favours etc. Showing your friend that you are a giving person, but with your actions in giving your personal time and effort to help.

Oh...hmmm - this is why I am part of this site You all make me think outside the relatively small box I live in! thanks!

 

[cowboyup]

I think I understand what you mean. If I'm present with a friend and they need help, I'll beat myself in the head saying "offer some assistance" or "help them out". I just can't bring myself to do it, even though I want to and have no problems in doing so.

...oh yes, me too. Like before I had so many issues, it was not a problem for me to drop what I was doing and help if someone needed help moving, whatever but now I am petrified to do anything it seems and feel like I am on the inside looking out at life passing me by

 

[Engulfed707]

I have a terrible time putting my feelings into words, including on paper. My best friend knows how much i care about and appreciate him but I dont think my family does, strangely, though i have always had the biggest problems with those closest to me. As for doing gifts and favors etc., in my situation that's really what I do best since everything that comes out of my mouth just gets myself into trouble anyway