Always having the feeling that no one likes me.

[Vin]

Not technically 'everyone' but the groups of friends.
So here's the story,

Whenever I move to a new group of friends they start to think I'm annoying and such, so I just leave them alone.
Now I'm on holidays so the groups of friends that used to be my friends all hate me, they spread rumours and other stuff about me to more people so I could become more hated.
I mean yeah, I do have other friends but whenever something would happen I have no one to back me up, I've been threatened so many times, I don't know what to do anymore.
When I go back to school apparently they're going to bash me, I have no one to back me up.
I don't want to tell my parents, police whoever about this, I also don't want to move schools.
What should I do? Apologies and such won't work.

 

[DeadmanWalking]

First off, any friend that would leave you out to dry when you need help isn't a friend. Friends stick around to help friends, no matter what.

Secondly, you might have to tell someone. Maybe go see the counselor about it. You need help with this thing. After that, you need to go find some true friends. Are there any clubs on campus? Join one that interests you and try to make friends, okay?

 

[Vin]

First off, any friend that would leave you out to dry when you need help isn't a friend. Friends stick around to help friends, no matter what.

Secondly, you might have to tell someone. Maybe go see the counselor about it. You need help with this thing. After that, you need to go find some true friends. Are there any clubs on campus? Join one that interests you and try to make friends, okay?

I try and try, but I always end up screwing up and they hate me. :/

 

[DeadmanWalking]

I try and try, but I always end up screwing up and they hate me. :/

Maybe it's not you that's screwing up, maybe it's them. You aren't to blame for every misfortune in your life, alright? How are you treating them?

 

[Vin]

Maybe it's not you that's screwing up, maybe it's them. You aren't to blame for every misfortune in your life, alright? How are you treating them?

The way I treat people is,
Nicely & Fairly. I always make them laugh, they can trust me with anything,
I always give them advice and help them out
I always put them in front of me, and worry about them before I worry about myself. Frankly, If I like someone, I'd do anything for their happiness.

 

[Aletheia]

Oh gosh, Vin, that sounds just awful.

Secondly, you might have to tell someone. Maybe go see the counselor about it. You need help with this thing.

Yeah I agree with this. A counselor may well know the best way to handle it. Please don't let yourself get bashed.

Beyond that, why do you feel that friends start to think you're annoying? Is it possible that you're afraid that they won't really like you, so you pull away and "leave them alone", so they start to think that you don't like them and react badly to that? Because I've got myself into cycles like that.

 

[DeadmanWalking]

The way I treat people is,
Nicely & Fairly. I always make them laugh, they can trust me with anything,
I always give them advice and help them out
I always put them in front of me, and worry about them before I worry about myself. Frankly, If I like someone, I'd do anything for their happiness.

You're not doing anything wrong then. It sounds like the problem's on them. Of course, Aletheia may have a point as well.

 

[Vin]

Oh gosh, Vin, that sounds just awful.



Yeah I agree with this. A counselor may well know the best way to handle it. Please don't let yourself get bashed.

Beyond that, why do you feel that friends start to think you're annoying? Is it possible that you're afraid that they won't really like you, so you pull away and "leave them alone", so they start to think that you don't like them and react badly to that? Because I've got myself into cycles like that.

That's true Aletheia, I feel I annoy them, so I leave them to it, and we start to drift, and such.
I don't know what to do.. Ugh. Any other way besides Counselor?

 

[sillyrabbit231]

Not technically 'everyone' but the groups of friends.
So here's the story,

Whenever I move to a new group of friends they start to think I'm annoying and such, so I just leave them alone.
Now I'm on holidays so the groups of friends that used to be my friends all hate me, they spread rumours and other stuff about me to more people so I could become more hated.
I mean yeah, I do have other friends but whenever something would happen I have no one to back me up, I've been threatened so many times, I don't know what to do anymore.
When I go back to school apparently they're going to bash me, I have no one to back me up.
I don't want to tell my parents, police whoever about this, I also don't want to move schools.
What should I do? Apologies and such won't work.

Sillyrabbit231: Don't worry, you are not the only one. One of my family members will find me annoying.

 

[Ten]

Vin you sound awesome ;3 I'd hang out with you lol. You remind me of me honestly.