Desperately need answers

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james617

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i have been depressed about my nose for about 5 years now. It is constantly on my mind. it has prevented me from going out, going to the gym, talking to women (haven't had a girlfriend in so long). What makes it worse is when I do actually step outside into the public, I get these dirty looks or looks of disgust and I can only attach that to my nose issue. If I see someone touch their nose, I automatically think they are judging mines (at first i thought I was just crazy but then it kept happening frequently) . It just ***** my mind up because I firmly believe I am not ugly or even that my nose is disturbingly big.

Also in public, I swear I hear voices that say "look at that nose" or "he has a big nose". but that could be my mind playing tricks on me. I'm doing bad in school, I work retail (which makes matters worse but i need the money), i'm becoming overweight. Whenever I have a conversation with someone, I am always anticipating them making a comment or gesture. I'm just not my normal self and I feel stuck in a bottomless pit. In my opinion, I don't think my nose is that bad to cause depression. It's just when I go out in public, i see these gestures or "hear these voices", my mind just puts me in a mode where my whole day is just messed up. I'm 19 yrs old, but feel 40 due to the daily stress I go through of just yearning to be "normal".

I basically just need opinions or step by step plan of to attack these issues. It's been too long and I want to put my mind towards things that are more positive for me.

Input?
 
Overload

Overload

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What's wrong with your nose? Can it be that bad? Do people really care about something so trivial?
 
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james617

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the inner logical side of me tells me that why would people care about a nose...but then i always get these vibes as if people are disturbed by it. Then if i see someone touches/scratches/rubs etc. their nose in my presence, my brain tells me it's because of my nose.
 
MikeyC

MikeyC

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I was going to suggest possible rhinoplasty but it doesn't seem like you need it. Maybe there's nothing wrong but you've conditioned yourself to believe that something really is wrong. I'm really unsure about this one.
 
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james617

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MikeyC said:
I was going to suggest possible rhinoplasty but it doesn't seem like you need it. Maybe there's nothing wrong but you've conditioned yourself to believe that something really is wrong. I'm really unsure about this one.
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i have thought long hard about rhinoplasty but I just fear it making matters worse. How can I go about re-conditioning myself? I really don't think my nose is bad but at the same time I am so self-conscious as I mentioned earlier around people.
 
Prestonator

Prestonator

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I can kind of relate to this in a way because for a while i would never tie my hair up because of my issues with my nose. But then I thought, there are people in this world who are disfugured, suffer from burns, etc who get on with their lives and don't worry so much about it. I could maybe understand more if you said you had been bullied because of your nose, but if not then you are probably worrying a bit too much about what people think. How can you be sure that the sniggering you hear when you're out and about is because of your nose? And even if they are, then should it really bother you so much? Will you ever see these people again? Do you care about them? I used to be pretty thin, and would worry about people thinking I was anorexic, but then I thought well those people do not know me, they don't know why I am like that so I shouldn't let them bother me.

Those people you hear sniggering may infact just be looking your direction whilst thinking about something funny. You have no idea what they may be laughing at. So I think that you are probably just exaggerating how bad your nose is. Have you heard of Katie Piper? She is an inspiring women and if you have not heard of her should look her up. She was badly burned on her face through acid and now has to live the rest of her life with a disfigured face, and she does it amazingly. It might put your issue with your nose into a bit more perspective......

Hope this post helps!
 
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james617

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honestly i think i've grown to accept it for what it is, so i don't think a nose job would help. Actually it probably will make me focus on another body part.

I think i am more concerned of how i perceive people react to it.
 
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