Social Anxiety Goal List

[Dj SL]

Goal: I will make eye contact to 10 people (saying to myself you are welcome me), smile and say hi for a week. (at my job, school, shopping centers.)

Why is this goal so important to me: Because I'm working to get rid of my social anxiety and I know I will beat the fear.

After that week, move on to another goal.

In a journal or notebook write a goal every week and do it; face the fear.

You can post any goals on here... Thanks guys

 

[Falkor]

goal:
*travel by bus this afternoon to the city. (takes 30 min to get there by bus)
*drink at a restaurant with a friend
*go back by bus

 

[DafT]

Learn to have offensive remarks not effect me, and to prevent them from reducing my self-confidence.

 

[twiggle]

Draw up a proper plan (I always prefer to write things down) with all the small-step plans of action I will take to achieve the long term goal to not avoid things.
And carry on sticking to this healthy eating.

 

[Dj SL]

goal:
*travel by bus this afternoon to the city. (takes 30 min to get there by bus)
*drink at a restaurant with a friend
*go back by bus

Looks like you are confident but while you are on the bus you can start a conversation with a person... Can you???

And drink at a restaurant... alcohol???

 

[Falkor]

Looks like you are confident but while you are on the bus you can start a conversation with a person... Can you???

And drink at a restaurant... alcohol???

No, i can't make small talk with people in the buss. that's a hard task ::
I'm too afraid to approach people, but if it comes to ''asking directions'' it's much easier

Nope, no alcohol for me, Just some ice tea or 7up!

 

[Phoenixx]

Nice thread Dj SL My goals for tomorrow...

1) Be positive. I was pretty depressed and negative today. I'm definitely changing that tomorrow.
2) Talk to a couple friends I've kinda lost touch with.
3) Have a full conversation with someone (or a few people?) at school. This can be a hard one for me, even with some people I'm friendly with. Lately it's just been brief talk like, "Hey how are you?" "How was your day?" etc.

 

[Dj SL]

No, i can't make small talk with people in the buss. that's a hard task ::
I'm too afraid to approach people, but if it comes to ''asking directions'' it's much easier

Nope, no alcohol for me, Just some ice tea or 7up!

I understand you, same thing happen to me approach to people and start a conversation, It's hard for me... But If I ask for something, It's easy for me...

I think for shy people is more easy to ask because they just expect an answer and that's it... whereas If they start a conversation, they will feel stuck while conversating to someone... But In the place I work; I face the fear and I make atleast small conversations with my costumers

And glad you don't drink alcohol; I don't either... It's a depressant.

 

[Dj SL]

Nice thread Dj SL My goals for tomorrow...

1) Be positive. I was pretty depressed and negative today. I'm definitely changing that tomorrow.
2) Talk to a couple friends I've kinda lost touch with.
3) Have a full conversation with someone (or a few people?) at school. This can be a hard one for me, even with some people I'm friendly with. Lately it's just been brief talk like, "Hey how are you?" "How was your day?" etc.

Thanks; I've been on theraphy for a year; my psychiatrist told me... To treat SA you have to do it step by step... Sometimes, you will feel afraid, Sometimes cofident... I started by facing the easy social situations; Like say hi, make eye contact, smile. Then, the ask questions; Like go to a shopping center and ask to an employee for a shirt or something that is in there... Then, The openers; Like at work/school, you can say hey, hi, how are you doing? Can I help you? After that comes the small talk; The weather is nice outside, I like it... Then the person will say something, then you say something... In short that how it works doing it step by step with goals, you will gain confidence

 

[Falkor]

I understand you, same thing happen to me approach to people and start a conversation, It's hard for me... But If I ask for something, It's easy for me...

I think for shy people is more easy to ask because they just expect an answer and that's it... whereas If they start a conversation, they will feel stuck while conversating to someone... But In the place I work; I face the fear and I make atleast small conversations with my costumers

And glad you don't drink alcohol; I don't either... It's a depressant.

today i was in the taxi, and i talked with the chauffeur (driver) and also the other person in the taxi. i even talked about my own things. But mostly about her life, she's a hairdresser so she makes small talks with people everyday she started talking out of nowhere so she kept on going on telling about some things, i was impressed about her life, and i told a little about myself, so small talk here we go haha , but it's easier than in the bus, when u talk in the buss, everyone is staring at you and listening to what you say, i don't like to be in the center of attention :$

my therapist said im good at keep making contact, i dont shut off, but i do keep it on, but only ''the start into a conversation'' is hard for me.
But when it's going on, i make good contact, she told me today

and ur right about the conversation thing, sometimes i get really stuck into a conversation, but it depends on what were talking about.
if i know what to say, it's no problem. some things are just a lil hard for me.

it's great that u make small talk with your costumers at work, awesome!
what kind of job do you have ?

yeah, well i only drink alcohol sometimes at special occassions, but hey, i rarely go to a party, almost never. so, it's like i drink a few times a year lol.
and i don't really like alcohol, it's just in special occassions when everyone else is drinking some, but i never drink too much.

 

[Phoenixx]

Just updating my goals. And thanks for that advice Dj That's exactly how I start too, is with the easy stuff. Sometimes I succeed, sometimes I don't, but at least I keep trying

1) I was positive today. Today was a really good day for me.
2) Was only able to get back in touch with one friend, but I guess that's better than none.
3) I almost didn't achieve this one. Most of my day was filled with small talk, until the bus ride home. I had a really good conversation just about music with a girl that I normally sit next to, but never really fully converse with.

 

[Dj SL]

today i was in the taxi, and i talked with the chauffeur (driver) and also the other person in the taxi. i even talked about my own things. But mostly about her life, she's a hairdresser so she makes small talks with people everyday she started talking out of nowhere so she kept on going on telling about some things, i was impressed about her life, and i told a little about myself, so small talk here we go haha , but it's easier than in the bus, when u talk in the buss, everyone is staring at you and listening to what you say, i don't like to be in the center of attention :$

my therapist said im good at keep making contact, i dont shut off, but i do keep it on, but only ''the start into a conversation'' is hard for me.
But when it's going on, i make good contact, she told me today

and ur right about the conversation thing, sometimes i get really stuck into a conversation, but it depends on what were talking about.
if i know what to say, it's no problem. some things are just a lil hard for me.

it's great that u make small talk with your costumers at work, awesome!
what kind of job do you have ?

yeah, well i only drink alcohol sometimes at special occassions, but hey, i rarely go to a party, almost never. so, it's like i drink a few times a year lol.
and i don't really like alcohol, it's just in special occassions when everyone else is drinking some, but i never drink too much.

Good, I'm glad u made small conversation on the taxi... About the bus; you have to change the thought that people is staring at you if you make conversation... People are in their own world, thinking about them lives; They can look at you on the bus while you talking but they really are not putting attention of what you are saying, they are in their own world; so, don't worry about it. Trust in your therapist If the therapist told you, you're making good contact believe it.

Sometimes you don't know what to say, that happens to me too.
On a book I read when you are in a social situation and you feel high anxiety your mind goes blank. The thalamus is located in the center of the brain. The thalamus send all the information to all the areas of the brain. So, experiencing too much anxiety the thalamus shuts down and the mind goes blank. But I'm not experiencing this anymore; the medications I'm taking reduced my anxiety like 75% or 80% of the symptoms.

I work in a supermarket; Sometimes as a produce clerk and sometimes as a cashier; I'm doing by best talking to my customers. If I don't have anything to say, I find something to say

good that you don't drink alcohol, It's not good for SAD people.

 

[Dj SL]

Just updating my goals. And thanks for that advice Dj That's exactly how I start too, is with the easy stuff. Sometimes I succeed, sometimes I don't, but at least I keep trying

1) I was positive today. Today was a really good day for me.
2) Was only able to get back in touch with one friend, but I guess that's better than none.
3) I almost didn't achieve this one. Most of my day was filled with small talk, until the bus ride home. I had a really good conversation just about music with a girl that I normally sit next to, but never really fully converse with.

That's good

If it's more easy for you do 1 goal per day that's ok but If you can do 3 goals per day that's great.

Yes, start with the easy situations first, We cannot jump from the bottom to the top. And awesome you had a good conversation with a girl

and If you sit next to a girl, that's good because you can start talking to the opposite sex. If you like her I can give you some advices like how you can approach to her more and more.

I've been reading too much about psychology; you know relationships, selfesteem, depression, dating, social anxiety, public speaking, how to flirt, how to approach to people etc etc... If you need my help just let me know.

 

[Falkor]

Good, I'm glad u made small conversation on the taxi... About the bus; you have to change the thought that people is staring at you if you make conversation... People are in their own world, thinking about them lives; They can look at you on the bus while you talking but they really are not putting attention of what you are saying, they are in their own world; so, don't worry about it. Trust in your therapist If the therapist told you, you're making good contact believe it.

Sometimes you don't know what to say, that happens to me too.
On a book I read when you are in a social situation and you feel high anxiety your mind goes blank. The thalamus is located in the center of the brain. The thalamus send all the information to all the areas of the brain. So, experiencing too much anxiety the thalamus shuts down and the mind goes blank. But I'm not experiencing this anymore; the medications I'm taking reduced my anxiety like 75% or 80% of the symptoms.

I work in a supermarket; Sometimes as a produce clerk and sometimes as a cashier; I'm doing by best talking to my customers. If I don't have anything to say, I find something to say

good that you don't drink alcohol, It's not good for SAD people.

interesting about the thalamus, i never heard about it. thanks for sharing.
question here,,, what kind of medication do you take to reduce your anxiety? i'm curius, and whoa it's amazing u work in a super market... i don't have the gudds to do that , wow

 

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I would like to have a smooth conversation for 10 min. with someone I don't know

 

[Dj SL]

interesting about the thalamus, i never heard about it. thanks for sharing.
question here,,, what kind of medication do you take to reduce your anxiety? i'm curius, and whoa it's amazing u work in a super market... i don't have the gudds to do that , wow

I'm taking paxil and clonazepam;

Paxil treats deppression and anxiety but It's considered more as an anti depressant.

Clonazepam treats anxiety more aggressive because It's an anti anxiety reduces the anxiety more effective.

You have the gudds to do anything you set your mind to

 

[Dj SL]

I would like to have a smooth conversation for 10 min. with someone I don't know

do you belong to a community?

 

[Falkor]

I'm taking paxil and clonazepam;

Paxil treats deppression and anxiety but It's considered more as an anti depressant.

Clonazepam treats anxiety more aggressive because It's an anti anxiety reduces the anxiety more effective.

You have the gudds to do anything you set your mind to

clonazepam is a great medicine, isn't it? i've heard about it, it seems a really good threatment for SA. I think i'm gonna discuss about clonazepam with my psych

 

[Dj SL]

clonazepam is a great medicine, isn't it? i've heard about it, it seems a really good threatment for SA. I think i'm gonna discuss about clonazepam with my psych

yes It's a good medicine... I've been taking it for 6 months and I feel different, I can make eye contact easily, small conversations, talk to my manager, talk to my customers/ co-workers, go anywhere; shopping centers and I don't feel too much fear as I used to feel it. I made friends during this 6 months. Clonazepam is helping me a lot. I feel more happy; and what I can tell you... Life is great

 

[maiato]

I'm trying a new approach here it calls T.L.C (THERAPY LIFE CHANGE) and as bases mainly in the follow things:

▶ Exercise for 30 minutes a day.

▶ Get 15-30 minutes of sunlight each morning in the summer. In the winter, consider using a lightbox.

▶ Get eight hours of sleep

▶ Take 1,500mg of omega-3 daily (in the form of fish oil capsules), with a multivitamin and 500mg vitamin C.

▶ Don't dwell on negative thoughts – instead of ruminating start an activity; even conversation counts.

▶ Be sociable.


The are the easy ones ( first 4 ) .... and the other last 2 (hardest)!!

All this 6 much seem much a cliche but who really make them all? or some?

I'm being doing specially 3: exercice, get sun and sleep well! I can't say i'm cure but i feel my mood much better lately : )