Anyone scared to make friends because they are scared to loose their alone time?

[sevenroses]

Anyone scared to make friends because they are scared to loose their alone time? Maybe some people think that if you make a new friend you are obligated to constantly go out with them every week which causes you to loose your alone time. For us introverts it could be a bad thing. Can anyone relate.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Yes, some like to hangout for a verry long time. It's nice to hangout here and there, but the feeling of being emotionally drained when your still out is horrible :S It's like sitting at a dinner table and you can't leave until the conversation has been stretched for hours. "Oh you brought dessert!" And another few hours..

 

[kihira]

Yes, some like to hangout for a verry long time. It's nice to hangout here and there, but the feeling of being emotionally drained when your still out is horrible :S It's like sitting at a dinner table and you can't leave until the conversation has been stretched for hours. "Oh you brought dessert!" And another few hours..

I hate this deeply, yet I have to tolerate it at least once a year with dull, dull extroverts, sometimes for 12 hours::::

Anyone scared to make friends because they are scared to loose their alone time? Maybe some people think that if you make a new friend you are obligated to constantly go out with them every week which causes you to loose your alone time. For us introverts it could be a bad thing. Can anyone relate.

This is ringing bells in my subconscious. I fear people at work inviting me to do stuff with them socially. Other friends wanted us to join them on a few days holiday somewhere - no thanks. I dreaded the prospect of being asked to go on an out of town 2 night staff development thing - never happened.

This is one reason why I don't want or need close friends other than family.

 

[Emma03]

Anyone scared to make friends because they are scared to loose their alone time? Maybe some people think that if you make a new friend you are obligated to constantly go out with them every week which causes you to loose your alone time. For us introverts it could be a bad thing. Can anyone relate.

I love my alone time. I have a few friends who constantly need to be around people, and it's really draining. I want to be social, just not all the time

 

[Why]

i wanna make frends to get rid of my alone time hah

 

[coyote]

i wanna make frends to get rid of my alone time hah

exactamundo!

 

[sevenroses]

I think it would be nice if you have friends who are laid back/understanding who wont really care or give a damn, if you decide to refuse to spend time with them, but would still be your friend in the end. It's really nice to find that perfect balance of alone time and social interaction that is just right for you.

 

[EscapeArtist]

I have the fear of meeting people like that.. not exactly meeting friends.

My one and only friend is a lot like that, he doesn't stop talking... hence why he considers me his bestbestbestfriend and I consider him a mere acquaintance. I should probably be nicer to him

 

[HeadFace]

Something like this, yeah. We all (all as in social phobes/people with SAD) have tiny fuel tanks for socializing. I can stretch hanging out with someone for about 3 or 4 hours, then I'll get bored or start getting more quiet or something. The only exception is if I was with a significant other

 

[tweetebird]

In a way, yes. Expectations of a 'normal' friendship are usually beyond what I can offer. I am not scared of losing my alone time, I am more afraid that I will again disappoint someone or make them feel rejected because I am so introverted.

 

[Rembrandt Broam]

Anyone scared to make friends because they are scared to loose their alone time? Maybe some people think that if you make a new friend you are obligated to constantly go out with them every week which causes you to loose your alone time. For us introverts it could be a bad thing. Can anyone relate.

Yes!

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[Obstacle 1]

Maybe not so much loosing my own time, but letting other people down with my erratic social habits.. sometimes I am here there and everywhere with someone and then I dont see them for a couple of months, not what you would call a consistent friendship.