Do You Think There Is Still Hope For Me?

So i've been trying to get rid of this void i have in life... i am very lonely and have no friends to speak of... There's no way i can connect with my cousins since they've stabbed me behind my back, and ridiculed and ignored me... There's no way i can connect with people i study with since they only think of me when they need me for their joint study or some help with study.... I only have hope in my 1st job where i have some nice people i deal with everyday in short my aqquaintances... I havent made a good impression at all sitting dull and quiet all the time and now i've decided to open up a little bit... i still cant talk and i just make eye contact and try to be with them outside of work.... do you think i'm doing okay or will i just get stuck up with an arranged marriage and have no friends at all in my life...

Look at it this way: if those people are really using you that much, then you're doing a good thing of avoiding their asses.

Yes, you might find friends at your job. Try to talk to your co workers about what they're into and what you're into. See if it works out.

Usually, my first-time-at-the-job awkwardness lasts about three weeks to a month.

Thanks a lot for your insight... I've managed to open up a bit with my co-workers since recently... i've just had a lot of rejection in the past... people giving me the cold shoulder so i'm doing it very very slow... these days i feel i'm not doing much i just go to them and stand with them trying not to freak out and panic... it's absurd.. i mean i know i'm being insane and they wont swallow me up but i still feel nervous and shy when i am with them... i really hate myself cos of this...

There is always hope

Don't give up. There is always hope, stay connected and find people that are similar to yourself.

It may help you to check out the social network on my signature, its basically a resource for people like us suffering from different illnesses.

I'm also a good listener.

CK23 said:

So i've been trying to get rid of this void i have in life... i am very lonely and have no friends to speak of... There's no way i can connect with my cousins since they've stabbed me behind my back, and ridiculed and ignored me... There's no way i can connect with people i study with since they only think of me when they need me for their joint study or some help with study.... I only have hope in my 1st job where i have some nice people i deal with everyday in short my aqquaintances... I havent made a good impression at all sitting dull and quiet all the time and now i've decided to open up a little bit... i still cant talk and i just make eye contact and try to be with them outside of work.... do you think i'm doing okay or will i just get stuck up with an arranged marriage and have no friends at all in my life...

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yes there is definitely hope for you. you seem to have made some progress already. i guess you are quite young, unlike me! the good news is that it gets easier as you get older and more experienced.

my advice re making friends is not to try too hard, but not to try too little. somewhere in between.

and keep your dignity even if you're not being as talkative as the others, its nothing ot be ashamed of, just a personality difference, a nice one, at that. lots of successful and famous people are introverted. its just as valid a way to be as to be extraverted, just its more of a minority than extroverted, but still good. i admit it can be difficult. but remember, its nothing to be embarassed about. try to get comfortable with the fact that you're the way you are, then you will relax more, and llikely have more you feel like saying. otherwise, just look friendly and interested. and be kind and caring.

from what i read on all the posts here, you are a bunch of sensitive and aware people, not out to harm anyone, just doing your best in a difficult situation, with great courage. school and college are the hardest, i think. a lot of people even without social anxiety have problems with work colleagues. they can seem to be very good friends with each other, and to be popular, but the others will still bad mouth them when they're not around. i've been vrey surprised, when i've got talking to people at work, at the problems so many people have, which i wouldnt have guessed.

hang in there, you have a lot to offer!

all the best

pippa

Don't ever give up the hope that maybe something will happen. Even if it all seems totally hopeless and NOTHING is going right for you, that doesn't mean it is going to stay like that for ever. If you just keep that small amount of hope with you at all times, it can give you more determination and a better reason for the future.

All you need is one decent person that will be with you when you need them. There are so many jerks around, its unbelievable.

Many people feel helpless, and we all have our problems. I just hope something magic turns my life around.