Being happy alone

SocialRetahd

SocialRetahd

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I feel that if you can become happier alone then you won't value a social life as much. You should keep trying to improve yourself, but you should also read books, play video games, and whatever else.

Don't do things in spite of your SP, such as watch a movie where someone rebels against society. Try not to influence your anger.

Here is my list:
-Program my own personal software
-Play video games (Risk?)
-Read books I'm interested in
-Write stories maybe

Think about whether you are really able to entertain yourself, by yourself. This way you'll be able to see your personality flaws.
 
loserinamailbox

loserinamailbox

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But it is a natural human thing to interact with others. Avoiding the problem by being alone all the time won't help you. Doing the same thing over and over again, not trying anything new, not ever putting yourself out there.. won't lead to positive change.
 
Moonie

Moonie

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Some things I like to do alone:

Read/Write
Paint or do crafts
Exercise (pilates, jumprope, aerobic videoes, toning exercises)
Shop


But the question is, does this make you happy to be alone? if you are craving social interaction, I'd try to meet people somehow. Your list is good. Maybe take some things from your list and find out if you can find groups/clubs/etc. that you can join. If you desire to do so.
 
SocialRetahd

SocialRetahd

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No.

It never works out, ever. People outcast me, always. I have no personality anymore and I never had social skills.
 
Richey

Richey

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There is no problem living a solitary life where your not tied down to friends, but if your avoiding places and interaction with people while living that way then the SA is getting in the way, but you can live an enjoyable life mostly alone while still interacting with everyday people without anxiety, but also if you meet a person that you know you can be freinds with, dont hesitate to persue it, what do you have to lose?
 
IceLad

IceLad

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I've been leading my life alone for a fair number of years now, yet in a way I'm still not used to it or happy with it.

Although I'm happy watching DVDs, playing computer games, travelling, reading books, listening to CDs, these hobbies only serve as a temporary distraction from my general unhappiness.

Annoyingly, people seem to think I'm quite happy leading this kind of solitary life!
 
crazyfox

crazyfox

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I can be happy being alone sometimes--I enjoy reading and watching movies and stuff--but if I'm alone for too long I start to implode!!! 8O
 
SilentType

SilentType

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loserinamailbox said:
But it is a natural human thing to interact with others. Avoiding the problem by being alone all the time won't help you. Doing the same thing over and over again, not trying anything new, not ever putting yourself out there.. won't lead to positive change.
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If its natural for human beings to interact with one another, then why do we feel the way that we do? Is there really a "natural" behavior for all human beings. Maybe we don't really have this "illness" that doctors label us with. Maybe we're just a minority of God's human creation with special minds that are to be used in special ways. I love this post. I plan, myself, to move out in the mountains somewhere and live the solitary life once I can afford it. I'll Just get a dog to keep me company, since most dogs have better personalities than a many of the people I've met, lol. My job is medical transcription and I can do it basically wherever I have internet access, so that's not a problem. I have a lot of hobbies, like guitar, surfin the net, video games, inventing, art, fitness. I could fill my days and love life because I wouldn't be constantly in touch with all of these people that don't understand me and won't ever understand me though years of my attempts on my part.

However, you can't completely cut off your human interaction. You still should visit family regularly and do the necessities like go shopping and buy awesome stuff with the money that you won't be wasting on doing the social things in life. Lol, I've rambled enough.

Peace
 
Horatio

Horatio

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The following techniques used to work for me...

- writing
- drinking
- purchasing unneccesary items on internet auction sites
- watching dvds
- blasting music at innoppriate times
- travelling

The last is the best one, you can feel free as anything if you just jump on a bus or a plane and head off into the unknown.
 
psykid

psykid

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I personally don't believe it's possible to truly be joyful if I'm all alone. True, I might feel happy while I'm doing those solitary activities, but after I'm done everything, at the end of the day I still feel miserable & empty if I have no one that I'm comfortable with in reach. To me, doing hobby related things the entire day is only a distraction, it's not actually solving the problem. It's kind of like (as my English teacher said) getting hit on the head by a kid everyday then taking advil every time to make the pain go away rather than getting rid of that kid to solve the root of the problem.

But anyway, things to keep myself busy are:
programming
animating
drawing/graphic design
composing
It did help me get a pretty decent portfolio together tho ^^() But I'd still rather spend less time on those and make more friends that I'm comfortable with.
 
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moonbow76

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I try to fill my days with hobbies just to keep me busy, but they don't make me any less lonely. I'm still deeply unhappy. I do recommend trying to fill your time, as it can be helpful in the short term, but it's not enough...at least, not for me.
 
Thelema

Thelema

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I don't believe a hermit lifestyle is what people really want. Are you telling me you would mind sharing a place with your favorite sexy movie star?

Theres the story of Lancelot... He eventually became a hermit, but its said that "nobody fought harder or loved deeper" (Thats one of my favorite quotes. I want it on my tombstone) If you live and love and then become a hermit you have good cause, but if you just sit around feeling honestly like crap than being alone probably isn't for you.
 
TAMPA-BAY

TAMPA-BAY

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being alone

Isnt there a difference betweent being alone by choice and being alone because of outside factors? I am curious as to what you others think.
 
SocialRetahd

SocialRetahd

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I was always affraid I was just wasting my youth away. I need to forget about youth and just become normal.

College is almost over and I have made no friends, been to no parties, and have spent all my time on the internet.

Another important part of my life, gone.
 
Horatio

Horatio

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SocialRetahd said:
I was always affraid I was just wasting my youth away. I need to forget about youth and just become normal.

College is almost over and I have made no friends, been to no parties, and have spent all my time on the internet.

Another important part of my life, gone.
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I can really identify with that. My 21st birthday party consisted of four people sitting around a table at Denny's. My relationship experience during my college years was limited to an internet romance with a girl in Lebanon. (Which ended when I realised that perhaps staying in New Zealand to complete my degree was a better idea than moving round the world to live with someone I only knew by internet and phone).

It still hurts to think that I let so many years slip by but if anything that just drives me to live as much as I can now. I'm 24 now and sure in some ways I'm relearning what most people learn at age 18 I can still say that I've lived more so far this year than every previous year put together.

Sure College may nearly be over, but death aint tapping on your shoulder yet 8)
 
EscapeArtist

EscapeArtist

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If can learn to be happy alone, I can learn how to be happy with somebody.

I enjoy my movies about people rebelling against society lol...... but i'm more against the mass consumption part of society, advertisements, mind games and manipulation, greeeeeeeed.... not just that I don't fit into it.

If you're able to be equally as happy alone as you would be with a loving group of friends, or a companion, then go for it! Doesn't sound like the kind of life i'd like to live personally.
 
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sevenroses

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Even though we are hardcore introverts and wanting space there's always going to be this craving inside us for human connection and friends.
 
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