Why is my co worker ignoring me when i say hi to her......?

A year ago I made a mistake of pointing out that this co worker had put on so much weight in front of other 2 workers.I wasn't trying to be hurtful. I guess it was lack of judjement on my part.

I didn't think much of it until she told me that she was very hurt by it. I apologized and she seemed fine around me afterwards but she wasn't as friendly and warm before the incident .She will respond whenever I say hi to her


Now months later,i say hi to her whenever I see her but she now ignores me and avoids me. it because of the comments I had said before?I thought she was over it as it happened a while back

That what a very insensitive thing to say and even though you have apologised, you have probably lost her trust. Once bitten, twice shy

mop

It's never a good idea to comment on someone's weight if they aren't asking for your opinion. Even then it's usually not a good idea either! Overweight people know that they are overweight, it's not something they need to be constantly told, they know what they look like. Seems like you learned your lesson though. I'm guessing she is a very sensitive person and may never let it go. Some people will hold onto to one thing you said for a long long long time and never forgive it. We can't tell you if she is ignoring you for your previous comment, but I think that is possible. Did you say or do something else that she may have viewed as hurtful? Even if it wasn't necessarily at her. Maybe she was reminded of it somehow and it's been stuck in her head again.

When it gets to weight gain most people are really sensitive about it.
It was quite hurtful what you have said and unneccessary - because she knows her body and of course she noticed on her own that she gained weight.
In our society this is even worse - because the mass media often associate weight gain with lazyness, a lack of discipline and failure.
So commenting on someone weight hurts on two levels, it shows the person that her or his attraction "decreased" but also that his mental strength and personality.

And you dont know why she has put on weight - maybe her boyfriend broke up with her and she was depressed, she had an eating disorder that took over control, she was struggling with herself or she just didn't care about the "usual" fitnesshype anymore.
Whatever, you have hurted her and actually i can understand her position.
Of course she seemed to be fine, maybe she just was just too proud to admit that she isn't okay with that.
I think the only option is to try to apolgize again...

It's really insensitive to say what you did.

It's really none of your business stating anything about other peoples physical condition. I'm betting you're not perfect, and would be hurt if they had said something about you instead.

Perhaps if you personally apologised in private to her, and offered to have a coffee with her and a chat. Just to show you're genuine.