so yesterday....while driving and thinking....(and probably having that stupid bewildered, uncomfortable look about me :evil: )....i thought about some of the braver things i've done in my life.....here are a few........1. i went to a driver's test, drove with a complete stranger...and got my license!! how the fuck did i do that?...hmm....2. i went to job interview...3 or 4 actually, and got the jobs!!.....3. once...i parked and lifted up the hood of my car, cause my friend had the hots for a guy who worked at a gas station...and waited for him to come over and help us :twisted: ......4. i walked, alone, into the bank and opened up a new account 8O ...5. i used to have friends over, make dinner for them and have drinks...and actually have fun...6. i moved away from home at 17...moved to another city and attended college for a year...really not sure how i did that....but it makes me wonder.......if i had the courage at some point to do these things...what happened?....it kind of depresses me...like....is the courage still inside me somewhere...and i've lost it?....or need to figure out a way to find it?.... :roll: ....makes me wonder :roll: ...and i'm curious....what are the bravest things you've done :?:
what brave or courageous things have you accomplished???
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SaharaWorld
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Oh wow Maggie. These are really great accomplishments 
You should definitely feel proud for doing these, especially since you accomplished them inspite of your SA. In particular moving out of home at 17! I've always lived with my parents.
The bravest things I've done that spring to mind....
1. Attended teaching interviews in the past (even if you get through these, they give you grades and I got the highest grade- higher than most of my peers who are MUCH more confident and experienced)
2. One interview involved reading a story aloud to a group of children while being watched by the headteacher, 2 governors and 2 teachers. How did I do that!?
3. Standing in front of a class of 30 kids and teaching them.
4. Went to my sister's birthday party and chatted to all her friends and was very friendly and outgoing with them. Her house was packed and her friends even said that I'm completely different to her in that I'm much more confident and relaxed with new people!
Strange that the way we view ourselves and think other people perceive us can turn out to be so wrong.
You should definitely feel proud for doing these, especially since you accomplished them inspite of your SA. In particular moving out of home at 17! I've always lived with my parents.The bravest things I've done that spring to mind....
1. Attended teaching interviews in the past (even if you get through these, they give you grades and I got the highest grade- higher than most of my peers who are MUCH more confident and experienced)
2. One interview involved reading a story aloud to a group of children while being watched by the headteacher, 2 governors and 2 teachers. How did I do that!?
3. Standing in front of a class of 30 kids and teaching them.
4. Went to my sister's birthday party and chatted to all her friends and was very friendly and outgoing with them. Her house was packed and her friends even said that I'm completely different to her in that I'm much more confident and relaxed with new people!
Strange that the way we view ourselves and think other people perceive us can turn out to be so wrong.
Chilling__Echo
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wow maggie i didn't know all that about you! that's alot, kudos to you. you too sahara
-i've gone to college
-with enough preparation i can do a presentation (depends on the crowd though
-i can manage my anxiety most of the time (i.e. when i'm by myself and constantly worry)
that's all i can think of...
-i've gone to college
-with enough preparation i can do a presentation (depends on the crowd though
-i can manage my anxiety most of the time (i.e. when i'm by myself and constantly worry)
that's all i can think of...
Chilling__Echo
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i still get butterflies and stuff, but i can't just walk in a room and talk, i have to sit and observe others for a bit and psych myself up to it. like, i look at them and say in my head, convince myself that they're no better or more capable than me. i can do it too. be open in public.
and i take really deep breaths and go slow. don't pay attention to what i sound like, be neutral, and try to stay calm. it's taken alot of practice and psyching myself up for it... but it's possible :wink:
and i take really deep breaths and go slow. don't pay attention to what i sound like, be neutral, and try to stay calm. it's taken alot of practice and psyching myself up for it... but it's possible :wink:
Chilling__Echo
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also, i won't let myself kick myself when it's over. i'm never satisfied with something i may have said or done and you kinow how you go home and it just replays in your head over and over? i absolutely won't let myself do that. i just say "get over it" and try to forget it and move on... it helps
SaharaWorld
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maggie said:wow....SaharaWorld and Chilling_Echo....i'm impressed....how on earth do you stand in front of others and speak?...or give presentation??..yikes...i could never do that
Thanks
I find it okay getting up infront of a group of children - infact prefer to present to an audience of 40 children than 5 adults! The anticipatory anxiety is usually the most difficult part. Once the presentation is over, you get a real buzz. Plus, people are expecting you to look/feel nervous - it's a presentation after all! So no need to worry about embarassing yourself, as everyone else (no matter how outgoing and extroverted) is dreading it too and is in the same boat.
SaharaWorld
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Chilling__Echo said:
That is a great piece of advice, I definitely need to do that from now on.
Skyla
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1. i did drama class back when i was 12. on the night of the show we had to do improvisation . A girl who went on before me had stolen the routine i did in rehersals (BITCH, lol), so i had to quickly think of something else :? . the room was packed wid my fam and everyone else. BUT somehow i thought of something just before it was my turn to go on and it worked. people were laughing and clapping. till this day i cant believe i did it. how da hell did i?? the thought of doing it scares me and at 12 i managed to get through. i stopped going after a while though....i got to nervous and anxious about what to expect to be doing each week.
. A girl who went on before me had stolen the routine i did in rehersals (BITCH, lol), so i had to quickly think of something else :? . the room was packed wid my fam and everyone else. BUT somehow i thought of something just before it was my turn to go on and it worked. people were laughing and clapping. till this day i cant believe i did it. how da hell did i?? the thought of doing it scares me and at 12 i managed to get through. i stopped going after a while though....i got to nervous and anxious about what to expect to be doing each week.
Pearl
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I consider myself brave if l do just about anything around people This yr l've had dancing lessons, and went to a psycho drama class which was the hardest thing for an sp. Don't know how l endured it, but l want to try it again some time. Mental challenges are alot harder than physical challenges for me.
You sure have courage if you left home at 17 and done all those other things...
This yr l've had dancing lessons, and went to a psycho drama class which was the hardest thing for an sp. Don't know how l endured it, but l want to try it again some time. Mental challenges are alot harder than physical challenges for me.You sure have courage if you left home at 17 and done all those other things...
JWH
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Really minor stuff lately all to do with work, but it's satisfying although stressful. Taking responsibility for the processing, printing and laminating of posters. Playing spy by calling up other print places and pretending to be a customer. Simply ignoring the taunting of the boss I count as success. I now just laugh and answer back.
The bravest things ever have only happened this year, and really they're not very brave. They are things I should have been able to do years ago.
The bravest things ever have only happened this year, and really they're not very brave. They are things I should have been able to do years ago.
Steve-182....that's awesome..and brave.....i hope that worked out for you :!: ......so, yesterday... i called the health food store and ordered something....ok, that sounds lame, but i HATE using the phone and asking questions, so it was kind of a big deal for me.....but now, i have to go in there to pick it up...Yikes 8O...
black_mamba
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Today I did something I'm proud of: I went to see the volunteer coordinator at my university and we had a long conversation trying to organise some workshops I'm setting up. I'm really pleased I've gone through with this (I've been putting it off for some time due to SP, but I really want to do this!!)... now if I can pull it off it completely it would be even better!
well yeah its good here although i am finding it very difficult to connect with people here due to my sa and more so due to to the HUGE culture difference from my home country. the language is definetly a problem and i refuse to talk even a sentence in it outside of my dutch class...feel so self concious
other than this i find that the people are a lot nicer here than from where i am, so thats good. otherwise i would have just packed my bags and left for home.
and u went to india? i am from there. how did u find it there? where are u from originally?
other than this i find that the people are a lot nicer here than from where i am, so thats good. otherwise i would have just packed my bags and left for home.
and u went to india? i am from there. how did u find it there? where are u from originally?
Worrydoll, u're absolutely right when u say that the tourists dont really see the 'real india' when they come there. There's a lot one wont understand about the indian lifestyle unless they actually live there.
Also, its not easy to judge india just by the way the big cities and the urban life is. The life lead by the rural population in india is far different and to me thats what the real india is. I have lived there all my life but i still dont know as much about the rural india as i should. i can tell u that even many indians from the urban population take things for granted as they dont really go to the rural areas.
I think living there 4 months u have been able to realise that theres more to india than what meets the eye. i can tell u that most ppl dont even realise this. its nice to know that someone does
Also, its not easy to judge india just by the way the big cities and the urban life is. The life lead by the rural population in india is far different and to me thats what the real india is. I have lived there all my life but i still dont know as much about the rural india as i should. i can tell u that even many indians from the urban population take things for granted as they dont really go to the rural areas.
I think living there 4 months u have been able to realise that theres more to india than what meets the eye. i can tell u that most ppl dont even realise this. its nice to know that someone does
