Want to Get Out But Want to Stay In

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Interzone

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I want to get out of my SA/APD whichever one it is, yet sometimes I don't want to get out of it. I feel that if I get out of it then I will not have any more problems and everything will be just fine, but then everything would be bland and boring and I'd be like everybody else, like every other happy person and I'm not sure I want to be like that.

Does anyone else feel similar sometimes? Not sure if it makes sense, I have trouble explaining myself and my feelings/thoughts a lot.
 
Satine

Satine

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I think you'd find that you traded one set of problems for another. Always worth a foray, but I get what you're saying.
 
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Felicidad

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I know what you mean, but in my opinio it´s a typical sympton of avoidants, that is: fear, lack of decission. Perahaps it could be this your case. I´m not sure.
 
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rand0m_guy

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It's quite natural to think like that if the way you are is the only way you've ever known.

Change is scary.

However, if you ever manage to overcome your SA/get it under control, you'll appreciate being 'bland and boring' more than anything in the world, and your whole mindset would be completely different anyway, thus you wouldn't ever think of yourself as them things.

I used to think the same exact thought, and now I feel a lot better there's no way I'd want to go back to how I was. Ever.
 
Havocan

Havocan

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Yeah, if you get rid of the SA then you suddenly have nothing to blame whenever you feel bored or down. I've been there too, but I've accepted the fact that there's probably not a single human being on Earth who doesn't feel down or is bored at a certain moment in life^^. More than one time.
Just try to fill in that missing space with hobbies; things that interest you and you'll probably discover a much healthier, richer and prosperous world than the one you used to live in before.
 
Skog

Skog

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Interzone said:
I want to get out of my SA/APD whichever one it is, yet sometimes I don't want to get out of it.
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On a slight tangent to your observation, have you noticed other people not wanting you to get out of your problem?

I am presently making no effort, but I have made extensive efforts from time-to-time to behave differently. I can see that people have such a strongly held perception of me as a loner or hermit, that their reactions tend to push me back into withdrawal, instead of encouraging me to be open.
 
Chrysalis

Chrysalis

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I think I understand what you mean also :)


If you take the leap and go for it, it's scary, very new and it's the unknown.

I have found that I have days where I don't wish to evolve, grow and develop - the risk is just too great, and I feel that as I've been this way for so long (despite proactive avenues or otherwise), why attempt it anymore?

It is about Identity also - plus I'm of the opinion that one never really loses their anxiety - you just learn to manage it more effectively I think.
 
gale

gale

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Hell what are you talking about?We should get out from this disorder the best way we can.This disorder can never make us happy,this makes us just an observer and not a participant in life.Life should be participated and not just be observed.Maybe you're right Chrysalis the unknown is scary but arent we always being scared of social interactions day in and day out?(the world is full poeple you know).
 
NormanBates

NormanBates

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I don't find anything wrong with accepting things as they are.

If it's more comfortable to look weird and unsocial, WHY THE HELL NOT!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

As long as your still sociable enough to say something like "CALL 911"
 
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