your opinion about my decision???

[xSleepy]

EDITED: Another one of my lame posts. :roll:

Oh and I just have to comment on the person who posted right after this... In my experience, someone who has SP and goes into a situation where they panic and get anxious, well most of the time they dont learn from it. Just makes them more afraid. I think thats the major difference between just the average nervous person and someone who has SP. You cant always just get used to these things and adjust. Thats not how its worked for me anyways...

And thanks guys for the replies... appreciate it

 

[Vancouver]

Oh my god! You have an open, clear shot of getting rid of whatever reason made you start posting on this site - be it SA, SP, shyness, anxiety...

The one thing that defeats shyness and SA/SP is getting uncomfortable, or at least the willingness to do so. The more uncomfortable you get out there, is the more comfortable you'll be in here (inside). I know this can seem as terrifying as a suicide bombing mission, but trust me.

So please, please, please do yourself a favor and stick with it. I'm begging you. This will be the greatest investment of your entire life thus far! Don't avoid the fear - or you'll spend the rest of your life in hiding. Please go through with it!!

 

[IceLad]

The first few weeks of a new job are hard for everyone, let alone if you have SP!

I'm not sure whether you had a choice, but it sounds to me that by accepting management responsibilities, you may have bitten off more than you can chew. Personally, I wouldn't aim to enter a job at supervisory level- start at the lower levels then once you get used to that, go for promotion (assuming you want promotion). Do you have the option of staying on at a lower level?

I'm not sure the degree to which you have SP, but can you see yourself getting used to the job over the next few months? Is it worth giving it a few more days? However if you've definitely feel that it just isn't for you, it might be worth telling them so you don't mess them around too much.

I seem to have given you more questions than answers! lol :lol: Overall if I was you, I would see if I could stay on at a more junior level. If this isn't possible then I would quit.

Best of luck with your decision!

IceLad

 

[cosmosis]

That's a really difficult question and one I've had to deal with time and time again with similar situations.

I think it really depends on the situation. I generally agree with Vancouver, but I really think that not all experience is good experience either. I think it can go both ways. If you are in a position where the people there make your job hell and make you even more self conscious and more shy (after the initial start) then maybe consider getting out. All that is doing is driving your SA deeper. If the job is just really difficult for the sake of being difficult and its something that you just really hate doing, then I would suggest sticking it out for a while. Because if that's the case, then you really have a great opportunity to get a little better with SA.

In any case, in my opinion, I think you should give it a little more time and see which way it goes. Even if it is really difficult.

Best of luck.

 

[xSleepy]

gus gus...

 

[shon]

well first of all, i didnt start coming on this site because of my job. i just happend to run into it.

and i didnt want this job! he just gave it to me! he was desperate for someone to run the night shift, and i was available.
i can handle working...just not there. the environment is just bad...horrible really.
on my first day i was nervous, but i kinda liked it. i just dont like that i will have to be in a managing postion.

ive had a few days to think about it now, and im actually considering calling and quitting right now.
but im already looking for another job

Only you really know what's best for you but in my opinion, people with SP don't belong in "manager" positions. In my experiences, you can try to come out of the SP but getting a job like that could make it worse.

My boss needed me to be in charge of some temps several years ago because he had nobody else....and I had been there a few months. I tried so hard but was too afraid to tell the temps what to do a lot of the time. It was so hard for me and I wasn't direct enough. I didn't correct them when I should've and it was a disaster. It's really bad when you're in charge of people who are not nice and take advantage of you. I was lucky enough that my boss decided that I was "too nice" to be in charge of anyone (even after being there 5 years). I had that choice though, it doesn't sound like you do.

 

[xSleepy]

gus gus

 

[Johnny_Charm]

booooooooooooo on you

 

[TAMPA-BAY]

Dont worry about it. I work in retail too and at least you had the decency to give it a try and and even tell your employer that you were quiting. Most of the mainstreamers work a day or two dicide they done like it and never show up to at least say they quit.

Even if you had did that at least you would of had an excuse. I like you had a sales job land in my lap. It wasnt my first choice but when the bills started pillin up you would be supprise how every job offer look.
From the first day I started it was a disaster. I had to sit in front of a computer termanal that spit out phone calls. As soon as you got hung up on it would dial another number. After being hung up on for 50hours a week with out pay I would get a lonely elderly customer who would trick sales people in to thinking they would get a sale. when a sales person would show up at thier home its was just that they neded someone to chat with . To make matters worst I was sourounded by pushy sales people who were getting richer whiles I was struggling in a foriegn environment.

I started to develop stomach ulcers and I finaly dicided to face the scary boss man and told him I was quiting. It went terrable he was very unprofessional and mean to me. I dam well knew if I was one of those loud outgoing types he would of dared take cheap shots at them but he knew I was shy and said some hurt ful things. It took me years to heal from that sales job.

Anyway somestimes you/we have to just walk away.

 

[xSleepy]

booooooooooooo on you

for some reason i found that kinda funny

 

[alter_ego]

Aww, it's such a shame I only read this thread today, after you'd already quit. See, one line really caught my attention, when you said "I really can't yell at people and tell them what do."

Which is why I think you would have been great at the job if you'd given yourself a chance. Good bosses and supervisors never yell at people and never exactly "tell them what to do". They say what needs doing in a calm voice and they're fantastic at understanding other people (which those with social phobia tend to be).

Anyway, not staying on line. I have to go to my cousin's wedding reception which, being socially phoibic, I'm dreading and which I feel guilty about dreading because she really wants me to be there.

As for my job...I am so stressed out and anxious about it. My bosses are okay, they don't yell, but one of them sits immediately behind me in an open plan office and I don't trust him as he's known to tell lies about his staff. I really, really want to move from that section because I can't cope with the workload but don't know if they'll let me and my social phobia is making me terrified of looking for a new job...