I just thought i share this information with you guys. I feel that the people in this forum will greatly benefit from this.
Okay, i've been taking this interpersonal course at my college and the information that i got from the class were very interesting, for me at least...
Anyway, this week we talked about Attachment Styles. Basically, it's how our parents raised us and how we approach relationships because of them.
There are four Attachment styles: Secure, Fearful, Dismissive, and Anxious/ambivalent attachment style
Secure: This style is a the most positive. This style develops when childrens are raised with loving parents/caregivers. Constantly giving us attentsion and praise and positive views of others. In short, It's like those families in Disney Movies
. People with secure attachment styles tends to be outgoing, affectionate, and able to handle relationships better.
Fearful: Develops when parents/caregivers comunicates with childrens in a negative way, they reject them or even abuse them. People with this style get fearful easily about relationships. Even though they want a relationship, they are scared that the other person will not love them or that they are unlovable. They will become insecure in relationshipos and may avoid others.
Dismissive: The caregivers are the same as the fearful attachements. Rejecting, abusive, etc. But in this one, children who develop this style does not accept their parents views on them as unlovable. They'll grow up treating others as unworthy and see themselves in a higher level. Often, people with this style see it unecessary for relationships.
Anxious/Ambivalent: This style is develop we get inconsistent care from the caregivers. To put it simply, At times parents will be loving and attentive, the next rejecting the child or abusing, and round and round it goes...Or also when two parents rasing a kid and suddenly one of them past away, this will also consider as inconsistant. People with this styles, are inconsistent themselves. One day they will want affection then the next wanting space.
There it is, and there is also a test to see which kind of style you are. Remember it's just a test, so don't take it to seriously. I mean my teacher said that interpersonal communication can be improved, so if you get something you dont like it doesnt mean you're stuck in that catagory.
I hope this information is helpful.
Link:
http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl
Okay, i've been taking this interpersonal course at my college and the information that i got from the class were very interesting, for me at least...
Anyway, this week we talked about Attachment Styles. Basically, it's how our parents raised us and how we approach relationships because of them.
There are four Attachment styles: Secure, Fearful, Dismissive, and Anxious/ambivalent attachment style
Secure: This style is a the most positive. This style develops when childrens are raised with loving parents/caregivers. Constantly giving us attentsion and praise and positive views of others. In short, It's like those families in Disney Movies
. People with secure attachment styles tends to be outgoing, affectionate, and able to handle relationships better.Fearful: Develops when parents/caregivers comunicates with childrens in a negative way, they reject them or even abuse them. People with this style get fearful easily about relationships. Even though they want a relationship, they are scared that the other person will not love them or that they are unlovable. They will become insecure in relationshipos and may avoid others.
Dismissive: The caregivers are the same as the fearful attachements. Rejecting, abusive, etc. But in this one, children who develop this style does not accept their parents views on them as unlovable. They'll grow up treating others as unworthy and see themselves in a higher level. Often, people with this style see it unecessary for relationships.
Anxious/Ambivalent: This style is develop we get inconsistent care from the caregivers. To put it simply, At times parents will be loving and attentive, the next rejecting the child or abusing, and round and round it goes...Or also when two parents rasing a kid and suddenly one of them past away, this will also consider as inconsistant. People with this styles, are inconsistent themselves. One day they will want affection then the next wanting space.
There it is, and there is also a test to see which kind of style you are. Remember it's just a test, so don't take it to seriously. I mean my teacher said that interpersonal communication can be improved, so if you get something you dont like it doesnt mean you're stuck in that catagory.
I hope this information is helpful.
Link:
http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl
