encinoman
New member
This post may be a little self-indulgent so forgive me for that, im not feeling sorry for myself i know people have much bigger problems, but if anyone wants to throw in there two cents id be most grateful.
At the age of 26 i have not had a lot of encounters with members of the opposite sex like alot or most of the people in this forum. but just under a month ago i met a girl at a bar. She is from new zealand, i am from scotland and she was just living here for a few months so we both knew were we stood in terms of nothing could get too serious. we went out a few times later that week, she even cooked dinner for me and things seemed really good.
id just like to state that like most of us who are socially anxious i tend to see the worst in situations so for me to say things were really good, they must of been!
the last time i saw her i said id call her during the week. not wanting to seem to over-eager i waited til mid-week. She didnt answer. im not one to call heaps of times so i left it at that, hoping she might call back. she didnt so i called again the next day just the one time again and no answer. i sent a text just asking her out for a casual drink on the weekend and she said she couldnt because her sister was in town and she was going to spend time with her. I know its a reasonable excuse but i had this feeling she had lost interest. I sent a similair text later that week and this time not even a response. my thoughts were confirmed.
i know this sort of thing happens all the time, people lose interest even after a short amount of time. but id like to think most people have the common decency to at least let the other person know. i guess that's were im confused, she seemed so nice and i don't know where i went wrong. as most of you would be able to relate,these things happen so rarely for me i guess im just a little disappointed.
At the age of 26 i have not had a lot of encounters with members of the opposite sex like alot or most of the people in this forum. but just under a month ago i met a girl at a bar. She is from new zealand, i am from scotland and she was just living here for a few months so we both knew were we stood in terms of nothing could get too serious. we went out a few times later that week, she even cooked dinner for me and things seemed really good.
id just like to state that like most of us who are socially anxious i tend to see the worst in situations so for me to say things were really good, they must of been!
the last time i saw her i said id call her during the week. not wanting to seem to over-eager i waited til mid-week. She didnt answer. im not one to call heaps of times so i left it at that, hoping she might call back. she didnt so i called again the next day just the one time again and no answer. i sent a text just asking her out for a casual drink on the weekend and she said she couldnt because her sister was in town and she was going to spend time with her. I know its a reasonable excuse but i had this feeling she had lost interest. I sent a similair text later that week and this time not even a response. my thoughts were confirmed.
i know this sort of thing happens all the time, people lose interest even after a short amount of time. but id like to think most people have the common decency to at least let the other person know. i guess that's were im confused, she seemed so nice and i don't know where i went wrong. as most of you would be able to relate,these things happen so rarely for me i guess im just a little disappointed.
