why they do this to me

[rado31]

I dont have any friend. All my life i tried to be accompanied with some good people and now i m feeling that they are all jerks.

Who in the hell would suggest you to commit suicide. It happens to me twice. I cannot believe what i ve heard. This weekend. And i wasnt depressed really. Would u suggest someone that is different when you are
feeling frustrated anything like this.

I m so tired of life.

I m so mis-percieved by people that i was labeled as misanhtrop when teenager. I think that i will really become one. I m full of anger and frustration. Ignore me, because now i can bite innocent people. Havent slept 2 nites. No medicine can help this .

 

[Starry]

Anyone who would suggest that someone commits suicide is an idiot! :evil: People like that are not worth knowing. :evil:

I'm sorry you're feeling bad at the moment. I'm no good at advice, so i'll leave it at this.

I hope you can feel better soon.

 

[joshueg]

Rado , espero que te encuentres algo mejor.
Leí tu post. Hay muchas personas , algunas pensamos que son nuestros amigos, y no lo son, pero eso no significa que debamos tirar la toalla.
Nuevos amigos vendrán, antes o después.

I remember you were able to speak in Spanish, Rado.
:wink:

 

[Y]

Believe me i know how you feel, people dont take it seriously thats why. They were probably joking about it and didnt think youd take it seriously.

I had a friend when i was in high school, who kept saying me "dont go hard on him, hes gonna go home and commit suicide now, hehehe" and that was my friend, i liked that guy a lot, i still do indeed, it was supposed to be a joke i guess which i couldnt ever understand.

And at college i was told twice by one of my roomates that "when you decide to killl yourself let me know ok, i gotta see that", and saying it in between 3-4 people each time making everyone laugh, i pretented to laugh too.

People can be cruel sometimes and most of them are not as empathic as we are, so they usually dont care what it may make you feel. All the advice i can give is not to take them seriously, i dont no more...

 

[rado31]

Starry and joshueg , Thanks for your responses!

I will try not to much to bang my hand against the wall about it.
I m like this and i cannot change. Maybe one day i could change the way other peoples behavior and opinions can affect me. Only, i feel like being avoidant again and that is a very strong feeling now.

 

[LittleMissMuffet]

At my last workplace I was having a cigarette out on the balcony and was lost in thought (as I usually am) and one of my bosses who saw me, then made the comment as I passed by: "What are you doing up there -thinking of jumping?"

...such an idiotic thing to say. And that's really all you need concern yourself with.

Like you I wasn't even particularly depressed but I think he just couldn't understand me at all. Lucky such a comment didn't get to me and that I was not feeling horrible that day.

So, that's it essentially -comments such as this are made by ignorant people who don't think when they say things. They may have an intuition for 'picking up' little aspects of how others feel, but they don't have the intelligence to know what it actually means. They open their mouths thinking that they are smart, when they are only reacting like an instinctual animal does when it sense an emotion -there's little by way of mature understanding and an animal would actually be better.

Anyhow, these people will one day have their smart-arse attitude turn round and bite them. They are really just shallow in their appreciation for what others go through and what life is really like.

Really, the question to ask here is:
Who is it who truly lacks respect for life?

...so don't worry, one day they will experience how tough life can really be and then they will start to understand.
But for now, just understand that they make cheap statements at others expense or push you away, because they cannot understand what you are experiencing and are ignorant about life beyond their own limited experience -and are not even able to empathise with you enough to judge an obvious effect of their words.
Perhaps if someone says that to you again you could reply by asking What are you trying to demonstrate: my lack of respect for life or yours? And maybe also you could say that when life gets you down you still keep going, and obviously- judging by their thinking- they'd end it all as soon as life got to them enough.
Maybe, I haven't come-up with the best things to say, perhaps such people are operating on such a moron-level that it is pointless saying anything to them at all.
In which case, maybe its best to just take note of their ignorance and their lack of maturity.

 

[loner45]

Hey. I had people tell me the same thing.....(jokingly, of course)
I've had the thoughts, but never was going to go through with it, no matter how tough the situation got.

Sometimes people are sarcastic, but they can be hurtful too in what they say. Especially if they do not know you or your situation.


Just adding my two cents :?

 

[Tryin]

:evil:

 

[Tryin]

I dont have any friend. All my life i tried to be accompanied with some good people and now i m feeling that they are all jerks.

Who in the hell would suggest you to commit suicide. It happens to me twice. I cannot believe what i ve heard. This weekend. And i wasnt depressed really. Would u suggest someone that is different when you are
feeling frustrated anything like this.

I m so tired of life.

I m so mis-percieved by people that i was labeled as misanhtrop when teenager. I think that i will really become one. I m full of anger and frustration. Ignore me, because now i can bite innocent people. Havent slept 2 nites. No medicine can help this .

jesus. who the hell do they think they are? suggesting you suicide? people like this just really drive me... :evil: :evil: people who do not care if they hurt somebody... damn it, how hard we try, and then they walk in with their damn sarcasm, devastating, labelling, smashing it all.... now THAT should be crime. oh gosh.

I am with you, honey. wish I could do something to make you feel better.

(damn, am I angry :evil: )

 

[MariahCarey]

you've just met the wrong people, thats all. but believe me, there are some good people out there.

 

[Katjelique]

I knew a person who would say things like this to others and he himself commited suicide. People bulid mean walls to try and protect themselves from others and say things to keep people from getting close to them. I think we can all relate to that.

 

[haze]

if someone says that their opinion isnt worth thinking about. although there are exceptions to this where your life really isnt worth living due to some huge dabilitating diease/condition but shyness SA whatever isnt something that has to be with you for life and you can do stuff about it so dont listean to them. also thanks for giving me another word to describe myself with misanthrope

 

[E]

I'm actually the one saying i want to commit suicide and people don't take me seriously they think i am joking .
doesn't seem like anybody really cares about me always felt alone even though i have friends they are just never there or not the friends i want to have.

and back to your case...
don't give a fuck about anything people say to you it's just not worth it to get upset about shitty people