Why can't I stop thinking about the things I say?

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Dust

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I tend to think too much about the things I´d like to say but end up babbling useless crap or not saying anything at all. It´s like there´s some sort of a barrier that won´t let me say things.
 
AsTimeBurns

AsTimeBurns

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Tiercel said:
Email exchanges are always worse for me, because I can read them later and keep beating myself up over any and every little thing. So I try not to keep them for too long, otherwise I end up driving myself nuts. Without the temptation, though, I just get on with my life.

With speaking one has two alternatives. One can either try to accept what one said and move on, or not say anything at all. I've been doing the latter for far too long, so I'm forcing myself to switch over to the former. I'm far from perfect, so I occasionally make a "mistake." SA makes it more difficult to do, but I try my best to learn from it and move on.

Though I'm getting rather tired of the taste of my own feet....

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I find I always have to re-read emails after I've sent them several times just to make sure I didn't say anything stupid, or have any freudian slips and say something I didn't mean to.
 
Phoenixx

Phoenixx

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DekKO said:
When I am talking to a friend or anyone really, everything is going fine and then I say something stupid and they give me a funny look. Then I can't stop thinking about what I said for days! The problem is everyone says something stupid every now and then and forget about it after a few minutes and I can't stop thinking about it at all. I hate living with SA.
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^ I have the same exact problem. I constantly think about the stupid things I've said or embarrassing moments that have happened, even ones that happened years ago.
 
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Minty

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I have some pretty awkward friends. The thing is, I never ever laugh at them or give them a funny look when they say something stupid. I wish they would do the same thing for me.
 
StupidWiz

StupidWiz

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I have the same problem like ***********... Sometimes I hate myself for doing that but I can't help it...

I ever posted something really stupid on the other forums then I didn't log in for a few days to that forum...

Is there a solution to this? Cause this feeling is kinda annoying for me.. ::(:
 
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CosmicNeurotica

CosmicNeurotica

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Mhm.
But I usually just chalk it down to, different is better. Different is what makes the world evolve. If it weren't for someone saying something "stupid" which is different than the norm, everyone would always live in the present and nothing would ever change.

Different is good. Keep acting strange and different. Someone will notice and understand one of these days.
 
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Minty

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Thing is...I'm not that different. I'm not eccentric. My problem is I literally become stupid when all attention is on me and it's my turn to talk. My memory begins to fail me, I stumble over my words, my thoughts become jumbled... Sometimes I forget how to construct a basic sentence. All because I'm fighting the instinct to be quiet, an instinct caused by anxiety.

It's like telling someone who is frozen in fear to dance. Their limbs won't do it and if they force it, they will look extremely awkward.
 
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spaghetti

Member
done it. but my biggest problem is thinking about responses to people before the actual conversation. "i'm gonna say this, then this, they should say this and i'll respond...IT'LL BE HILARIOUS!!".....wrong. the conversation never goes the way it does in my head so when it's time for my response i'm shootin blanks. which i'm sure is hilarious to them later on...behind my back. "what a weird kid. and why does he sweat so much?"
 
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