Why can't i be a social butterfly?

[recluse]

Why do i have to be the oddball? Everyone i know of go out and have fun with a gang of friends. On Facebook other people have hundreds of friends while i'm this loner. Even the 'geeks' who were in school have interesting lives and go partying. I have no interesting stories to tell about my life

 

[Butterflies]

Hi Recluse - your post caught my eye - my nickname is Butterflies - because it seems that's what we permanently suffered with.

Hey - you've got all of us! I've always been a faker - so while I've been sick inside (often vommiting afterwards) I've managed to "trick" everybody into thinking that I was a social butterfly - even though it's really butterflies!

Have you ever joined a support group in your area?

 

[thequietone]

Why do i have to be the oddball? Everyone i know of go out and have fun with a gang of friends. On Facebook other people have hundreds of friends while i'm this loner. Even the 'geeks' who were in school have interesting lives and go partying. I have no interesting stories to tell about my life

I feel the same way. It makes me a little sick to look on facebook and see how many hundreds of friends other people have., and their walls are written on every five minutes by all their friends. I guess not all of them are real friends, but it's still a heck of a lot more people than I know! You're not alone in this, recluse!

I think support groups could really be very helpful for many of us. This website is similar to a support group, but a real live one would be more beneficial. There are none in my area though.

 

[ooSOULCRYoo]

Once in a while I go on myspace and check on my ex-friends to see what their up to. Seems like their living it up. Going clubbing, meeting guys,making new friends and doing normal things. And then I start feeling pathetic. while their out living their lives here I am in front of my computer looking on myspace and envying other peoples lives. Im happy for them because they were once my friend. But deep down inside..I feel angry , jealous, and sad. I never wanted lot's of friends because I know how people can be fake. In highschool I only had 2 best friends. *sigh* I miss them

 

[anxietygone]

sure you have interesting stories. your focus is always on this awful feeling of anxiety and how to deal with it that you don't feel free enough or open enough to share yourself. trust me. I use to feel the same way. read about it on my blog if you want: www.anxietygone.blogspot.com

 

[Infected_Malignity]

Why do i have to be the oddball? Everyone i know of go out and have fun with a gang of friends. On Facebook other people have hundreds of friends while i'm this loner. Even the 'geeks' who were in school have interesting lives and go partying. I have no interesting stories to tell about my life

That's just who you are! Accept it. Some people can change, others just can't.

 

[SilentStranger]

Even the 'geeks' who were in school have interesting lives and go partying. I have no interesting stories to tell about my life

Yeah its funny isn't it? During school you had geeky/nerdy people who didn't have many friends etc. But its funny as soon as most of these people started uni/tafe etc they found more people like them and they were also partying/socialising.

As for me I just found myself too weird to hang around the popular people and too dumb to hang out with the really smart geeky people.

As for facebook, somebody recently sent a e-mail saying I have been added to his facebook account. These people have pages and pages of friends, I am too embarrassed to even create an account as I only know few ppl and most of them are people from work.

-SS

 

[Tryin]

Why can't you be a social butterfly? Why can't I be a squirell? Why can't Mexico be in Asia? Accept who you are. Or change it if you think it'll do you good.

 

[SilentStranger]

Why can't I be a squirell?

Because no matter how much you try you cannot change your physical form to a small rodent.

Why can't Mexico be in Asia? Accept who you are. Or change it if you think it'll do you good.

Do you think people can change? Or is it like the body, its written into your DNA and its unalterable?

-SS

 

[Tryin]

Why can't I be a squirell?

Because no matter how much you try you cannot change your physical form to a small rodent.

Why can't Mexico be in Asia? Accept who you are. Or change it if you think it'll do you good.

Do you think people can change? Or is it like the body, its written into your DNA and its unalterable?

-SS

I think one's attitude, beliefs, opinions, likes, dislikes and personality does always DEVELOP. And, of course, it's great if one can identify the natural changes and accept them. And use them. For one's own good. So, if you feel uncontent with who you are at this particular moment... maybe it's time to peel off some layers and take a look at how your self is evoluting... And, yes, time to CHANGE. I do, I believe it's possible. And more: I believe it's the most natural and beautiful thing one can take part in. Your own personal evolution. Enjoy it!

 

[recluse]

Hi Recluse - your post caught my eye - my nickname is Butterflies - because it seems that's what we permanently suffered with.

Hey - you've got all of us! I've always been a faker - so while I've been sick inside (often vommiting afterwards) I've managed to "trick" everybody into thinking that I was a social butterfly - even though it's really butterflies!

Have you ever joined a support group in your area?

No. I don't know of any groups like that here.

 

[Butterflies]

Hi Recluse - your post caught my eye - my nickname is Butterflies - because it seems that's what we permanently suffered with.

Hey - you've got all of us! I've always been a faker - so while I've been sick inside (often vommiting afterwards) I've managed to "trick" everybody into thinking that I was a social butterfly - even though it's really butterflies!

Have you ever joined a support group in your area?

No. I don't know of any groups like that here.

Would you join one if there was one? I read your posts and you sound like you have a great sense of humor - even with the pain your are carrying.

 

[recluse]

Hi Recluse - your post caught my eye - my nickname is Butterflies - because it seems that's what we permanently suffered with.

Hey - you've got all of us! I've always been a faker - so while I've been sick inside (often vommiting afterwards) I've managed to "trick" everybody into thinking that I was a social butterfly - even though it's really butterflies!

Have you ever joined a support group in your area?

No. I don't know of any groups like that here.

Would you join one if there was one? I read your posts and you sound like you have a great sense of humor - even with the pain your are carrying.

Yes perhaps i would. I think that my people probably would never guess that i am depressive..Believe it o'r not i appear cheerfull on the outside, and i appear to have a goofy sense of humour but on the inside i am terrified of life and feel pessimistic and sad.

 

[flake__]

hey recluse...i notice you are from Wales, i read somewhere there is support groups in both Cardiff and Bristol, if you are anywhere near them! Just google it.

I have decided to join a support group...there is one near me.

It is since coming to this site and finally realising that all my weird actions are down to social phobia (there is a reason!) and also facing up to the fact that i am a social phobic and not a 'social butterfly' lol...i have spent so long hiding it from my family and friends, and pretending i am a sociable person, i convinced myself sometimes!

Then i get to the social situation i have so confidently set up, expecting it to go normal like everyone else....but i completely crumble, and i think, why?! Why am i not like everyone else!

Then i come to this site, and it all makes sense. So that is some comfort. I think the phobia might be greatly reduced in a support group, because you know everyone else is just as scared of you are and thinking negative thoughts, so you could kind of laugh about it together and realise how ridiculous it is! Also no one will be judging each other. I think it could be a great comfort.

 

[maggie]

Why do i have to be the oddball? Everyone i know of go out and have fun with a gang of friends. On Facebook other people have hundreds of friends while i'm this loner. Even the 'geeks' who were in school have interesting lives and go partying. I have no interesting stories to tell about my life

i'm not either..but i don't let it bug me anymore. Better to have one or two honest..true friends..than to be the life of the party :wink:

 

[recluse]

hey recluse...i notice you are from Wales, i read somewhere there is support groups in both Cardiff and Bristol, if you are anywhere near them! Just google it.

I have decided to join a support group...there is one near me.

It is since coming to this site and finally realising that all my weird actions are down to social phobia (there is a reason!) and also facing up to the fact that i am a social phobic and not a 'social butterfly' lol...i have spent so long hiding it from my family and friends, and pretending i am a sociable person, i convinced myself sometimes!

Then i get to the social situation i have so confidently set up, expecting it to go normal like everyone else....but i completely crumble, and i think, why?! Why am i not like everyone else!

Then i come to this site, and it all makes sense. So that is some comfort. I think the phobia might be greatly reduced in a support group, because you know everyone else is just as scared of you are and thinking negative thoughts, so you could kind of laugh about it together and realise how ridiculous it is! Also no one will be judging each other. I think it could be a great comfort.

I'm from North Wales.

 

[sickofbeinglonely]

I get bothered when I see how many friends people have on Facebook, MySpace and similar sites. It makes me feel really inferior and lonely. But I think a lot of them are probably superficial.

Still doesn't make me feel any better about myself though...