Why are people so interested in what you're doing?

[Meow]

I don't get it, are people really that interested in what someone else is doing? it seems so.

This isn't just the SA/SP speaking but haven't you noticed when you're in a grocery store waiting in line and the person behind you is watching every move you make, looking at every single thing you are buying? they get so close it's as if they want to sit in your shopping cart.

When you're in a movie theatre and you get up to walk to the toilets and you have to walk past some people and they kinda just stare at you and watch you walk. I don't mean the people in the cinema I mean the ones outside buying popcorn or just standing around.

When you go to a Doctors office some people seem to look you up and down like they're better than you or something, but they're there for the same reason.

The one that really annoys me is when you're driving in a car or in the passenger seat and you drive into an area and there's people standing on the side of the street and they look at you, right into your windows. They hear you coming and stop their conversation and follow the car with their eyes. IS IT REALLY THAT INTERESTING PEOPLE? It's just a f@cking car!!! they drive past you ALL the time.

There's one example I experienced today, I was waiting for my hubby to come pick me up after i had a hair cut, I was balancing on a curb walking up and down just bored waiting for him to come, I started looking at posters in the window of a weight loss place and then I noticed every one in there was looking at me out of the windows.

Like you've never seen someone standing on a curb before??? Is it SERIOUSLY that interesting??? Aren't your posters in the window to be looked at???

There's a million other things I can think of, but I don't understand why people have to stop what they're doing and stare at you in different situations. It makes me even more paranoid than I already am.

 

[Philip]

i always get stair battles off people - only guys that do it. not long ago i had an argument for this woman looking through my house door when it was open, ridiculous, and when shopping most people have a good look at you putting your food on and watching,pathetic nosey ppl! :evil:

 

[brownbag]

Feeling Eyeballs On You

hah! :roll: i've always asked myself this question and i still do.
this thing has always bothered me too.
i'd always wonder why the hell people liked to pay attention to everything or just turn their head at every moving thing that goes by.. perhaps, even an empty rolling can on the ground at times.

i've since come to realise that.. the minds of "normal" people are such that, they're curious, they want to find out more.. they want to see and observe almost anything and everything around that attracts their attention - as long as they're just standing around doing nothing; quite like when they're standing around while waiting to buy their popcorn or simply waiting in line to pay for groceries, as you've mentioned.
And, this is the type of mindset that actually allows you to "socialise" - easily interested in wanting to know more or all about people you find interesting - even if it means talking to them AND looking them in the eye.

they've a more inquisitive mind, compared to sa ppl, which is the norm for them - which works quite the opposite for us.

thing is, they dont actually pay attention to everything we do.
we're the ones (unintentionally) making our own selves notice more.
due to this stupid condition, we notice alot or almost every single detail (known to Man) or thing happening around us.. especially when it concerns the horrifying thing called People. although we may not know it sometimes

P.s. Please excuse any peachiness or peaachy nonsense here.. i haven't been sleeping the past days and i can't recall what are the things i have just written above after sitting lookin for my mind in the words or actually... the words in my minf. oh.. but i do seee that i put 'feeling eyeballs on you' as the subjkect of the post. okay byeeuy

 

[lonley1]

This is a question I actually ask myself alot, and have come to 1 conclusion that it is a natural thing for a person (anything living actually) to be inquisitive learning and studing there surroundings. I think it's naturaly built into us to learn our enviroment and surroundings without consiously acknowledging what were doing., be it for security purposes or what ever..

 

[sugaryberries]

Some people are just nosy. Others have to justify their existence by thinking they are better than you so they study you to find your faults.

Maybe you should stop paying attention to them so much. My sister has this thing that whenever we go out she will say did she see that person they gave me a funny look. It's like our inside joke.

It does annoy me when people are standing in line, for instance, and they keep lookign around as if they are waiting for somethnig. It's like geeze stand still.

My sister and I mostly stare down little kids because it is funny, but once I did have a stare down in a grocery store with some high school kids.

 

[timmid]

What do you normally stare at?

I think that us with SA tend to study others more to see if they are watching us, and when we notice that they are looking at us or something that it seems like they are staring at us. When in the grocery line I usually look to see what other people have bought, I look to see what people are in the shops downtown as I drive by... I think that you are getting a normal level of people "staring" at you, it's just that us with SA are super sensitave to it.

 

[Alejandro]

It's human nature to try and understand what you don't know. Thus if you get a glimpse of something you must investigate more ...mostly by looking.

Some people take it to the max. I got an uncle who looks around the room and notices everything. He notice a cupboard was broken and every time he came (and it was not fixed) he would ask why. Convienently, for him, the toilet is on the other side of the house, so he checks the whole house to and from the toilet. I'm amazed he doesn't wear white gloves to check for dust. :twisted:

 

[StealThis]

I don't get it, are people really that interested in what someone else is doing? it seems so.

This isn't just the SA/SP speaking but haven't you noticed when you're in a grocery store waiting in line and the person behind you is watching every move you make, looking at every single thing you are buying? they get so close it's as if they want to sit in your shopping cart.

When you're in a movie theatre and you get up to walk to the toilets and you have to walk past some people and they kinda just stare at you and watch you walk. I don't mean the people in the cinema I mean the ones outside buying popcorn or just standing around.

When you go to a Doctors office some people seem to look you up and down like they're better than you or something, but they're there for the same reason.

The one that really annoys me is when you're driving in a car or in the passenger seat and you drive into an area and there's people standing on the side of the street and they look at you, right into your windows. They hear you coming and stop their conversation and follow the car with their eyes. IS IT REALLY THAT INTERESTING PEOPLE? It's just a f@cking car!!! they drive past you ALL the time.

There's one example I experienced today, I was waiting for my hubby to come pick me up after i had a hair cut, I was balancing on a curb walking up and down just bored waiting for him to come, I started looking at posters in the window of a weight loss place and then I noticed every one in there was looking at me out of the windows.

Like you've never seen someone standing on a curb before??? Is it SERIOUSLY that interesting??? Aren't your posters in the window to be looked at???

There's a million other things I can think of, but I don't understand why people have to stop what they're doing and stare at you in different situations. It makes me even more paranoid than I already am.

This could be a Seinfeld stand-up routine lol

 

[Maggot]

This could be a Seinfeld stand-up routine lol

This is what makes Seinfeld such a brilliant show.

 

[exuser01]

I don't get it, are people really that interested in what someone else is doing? it seems so.

This isn't just the SA/SP speaking but haven't you noticed when you're in a grocery store waiting in line and the person behind you is watching every move you make, looking at every single thing you are buying? they get so close it's as if they want to sit in your shopping cart.

Here is my advice, stare right back at them. Stare at them until they turn away. 99% of the time they will turn away.

 

[pitkreet]

I don't get it, are people really that interested in what someone else is doing? it seems so.

This isn't just the SA/SP speaking but haven't you noticed when you're in a grocery store waiting in line and the person behind you is watching every move you make, looking at every single thing you are buying? they get so close it's as if they want to sit in your shopping cart.

When you're in a movie theatre and you get up to walk to the toilets and you have to walk past some people and they kinda just stare at you and watch you walk. I don't mean the people in the cinema I mean the ones outside buying popcorn or just standing around.

When you go to a Doctors office some people seem to look you up and down like they're better than you or something, but they're there for the same reason.

The one that really annoys me is when you're driving in a car or in the passenger seat and you drive into an area and there's people standing on the side of the street and they look at you, right into your windows. They hear you coming and stop their conversation and follow the car with their eyes. IS IT REALLY THAT INTERESTING PEOPLE? It's just a f@cking car!!! they drive past you ALL the time.

There's one example I experienced today, I was waiting for my hubby to come pick me up after i had a hair cut, I was balancing on a curb walking up and down just bored waiting for him to come, I started looking at posters in the window of a weight loss place and then I noticed every one in there was looking at me out of the windows.

Like you've never seen someone standing on a curb before??? Is it SERIOUSLY that interesting??? Aren't your posters in the window to be looked at???

There's a million other things I can think of, but I don't understand why people have to stop what they're doing and stare at you in different situations. It makes me even more paranoid than I already am.

This could be a Seinfeld stand-up routine lol

I must confess, I was laughing out loud when I was reading it too. Cheered me up no end.

 

[Lotrsfan]

i don't like it when you are in line and the person at the back is looking you up and down from the back. I mean i know some people proably ain't but it's a feeling that they are sometimes and sometimes i get nervous to look and stare at them back.
Also i don't like when you are walking around the shops in town and there are seats. So when i walk nearly passed the people on the seats, they would be talking to the person next to them then they would turn my way and look at me and it's like the person next to them as said something like "Oh, look at her." they look you up and down and look at your legs as your going passed, and i'm already self-conscious of my legs even if they are hidden in trousers . i just walk passed them but tease up a little.

 

[Lotrsfan]

:lol:

 

[bluenow]

it happens less and less as you get older lol.

Ain't that the truth.

I look at people because I wonder what they are doing. Just interested. People watching is fun.

 

[Meow]

Just so you all know I did write this half in humor...

But you know, there is a difference between looking at someone and just blatently being nosey. We all look at people, but like the other day... my hubby and I were shopping in Walmart and some guy was literally leaning on our shopping cart looking IN our cart, bent over. So my hubby (who doesn't care about people looking) said "Hey! how ya doin' today?! did you go to church???" and he said "not today, did you?" and I said "we don't go to church" and he said "then why did you ask" HAHAHA

I know people like us with SP/SA are more likely to notice things like that, it's true. Sometimes my husband get's wound up because i'm always like "they're staring at me, wtf are they staring at!!" lol. But he agrees sometimes people just gawk at you for no good reason.

I agree with staring them out, that tends to work I know I have SA but I can be really fiesty when someone ticks me off.

.... Maybe I'm just not a big people person, I love my friends but strangers drive me crazy LOL.

 

[Meow]

mmm miaow...i think its cause youre a good looking woman. men want you and women want to be you. its a compliment. it happens less and less as you get older lol.

That is a really really nice thing thing to say... except it happens a lot less when you get older LOL! I really don't think it's true tho, I honestly think they're thinking the complete opposite like ewwww she's vile LOL.

Dreamer... I get that to a certain extent, I can look my psychiatrist in the eyes probably because I know she's seen this all before. I can't look strangers in the eye often tho or i'm like don't look at meeeee lol. Have you told your psychiatrist that you're having issues making eye contact with them? maybe they can help. Altho i'm sure they probably realize it anyway.