why am i scared to be
- Thread starter BC-chick
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First thing you should understand - there is always going to be room in your boyfriend's life for family. You can't expect him to drop them and everything else just for you.
Secondly - even if family plays a big part in his life, there's always going to be a big part in it for you too. You're in a relationship with him, are you not? Therefore he loves you too but in a different way obviously.
Your insecurities are keeping you from fully enjoying your relationship. Let them go. Take a risk - a big risk - and just throw them away. This is the best advice I can give you. When these insecurities start talking, you ignore them and occupy yourself with something - videogame, a book, music etc. When your boyfriend is away from you, you trust him. When he says he loves you, you believe him.
I have been there and I have tortured myself mentally for several months over it but eventually I found some inner peace. Trust me when I say you're good enough for your boyfriend, otherwise you wouldn't be in a relationship with him. You are good enough. You are wonderful enough for him, for your friends, for your family.
Finally this will take time so be patient and don't give up. Keep at it for as long as it takes.
Secondly - even if family plays a big part in his life, there's always going to be a big part in it for you too. You're in a relationship with him, are you not? Therefore he loves you too but in a different way obviously.
Your insecurities are keeping you from fully enjoying your relationship. Let them go. Take a risk - a big risk - and just throw them away. This is the best advice I can give you. When these insecurities start talking, you ignore them and occupy yourself with something - videogame, a book, music etc. When your boyfriend is away from you, you trust him. When he says he loves you, you believe him.
I have been there and I have tortured myself mentally for several months over it but eventually I found some inner peace. Trust me when I say you're good enough for your boyfriend, otherwise you wouldn't be in a relationship with him. You are good enough. You are wonderful enough for him, for your friends, for your family.
Finally this will take time so be patient and don't give up. Keep at it for as long as it takes.
