Reaching-Zen
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I heard a 2 hour self help audio on overcoming your blushing problems and it more or less explains no one is to blame but ourselves. Its very indepth, and reveals the deep problem from all aspects, and offers some great tips.
The bottom line is, we care too much about what others think of us, we often have a low self esteem, we beat ourselves up about our latest ''incident'', we try very hard to suppress or stop our blushing spell, only to increase it, and very often, we have fair skin to add to it.
Its quite an eye opener, for me, I think its very true. Now my goal is to reverse all my current thoughts, to gradually reduce my blushing fits, then to eventually not blush. Its going to take alot of mental work, but I have no choice. I alienate myself from most events. I dread parties, weddings, going to other peoples places for dinner, etc, etc.
I need to improve all aspects of my life, including alot of self discipline, learn to not care what others think of me, say to myself who cares if I blush and not suppress it but let it go, and worst, learn to love myself more. 8O I certainly do not love myself, so how on earth am I meant to start this complete mental overturn?
This is very big for me. Ive suffered for 20 years now, I think. It will be easy for me to say its all too hard, but if I continue with this for another 20 years, I'd rather not be here. It sound stupid, but its true. I have no choice but to start my new lifestyle. I always believed martial arts could help me with my problem, and after listening to this audio, I'm more convinced than ever. I just haven't done it long enough. That alone is not the answer, but its a large part.
Thanks for listening. I hope I can be of some comfort to others suffering the same.
The bottom line is, we care too much about what others think of us, we often have a low self esteem, we beat ourselves up about our latest ''incident'', we try very hard to suppress or stop our blushing spell, only to increase it, and very often, we have fair skin to add to it.
Its quite an eye opener, for me, I think its very true. Now my goal is to reverse all my current thoughts, to gradually reduce my blushing fits, then to eventually not blush. Its going to take alot of mental work, but I have no choice. I alienate myself from most events. I dread parties, weddings, going to other peoples places for dinner, etc, etc.
I need to improve all aspects of my life, including alot of self discipline, learn to not care what others think of me, say to myself who cares if I blush and not suppress it but let it go, and worst, learn to love myself more. 8O I certainly do not love myself, so how on earth am I meant to start this complete mental overturn?
This is very big for me. Ive suffered for 20 years now, I think. It will be easy for me to say its all too hard, but if I continue with this for another 20 years, I'd rather not be here. It sound stupid, but its true. I have no choice but to start my new lifestyle. I always believed martial arts could help me with my problem, and after listening to this audio, I'm more convinced than ever. I just haven't done it long enough. That alone is not the answer, but its a large part.
Thanks for listening. I hope I can be of some comfort to others suffering the same.