eso
Well-known member
nah, not awesome. But I'm long-winded so I'm going to try and shorten this as much as possible.
stats: 33, male, asian-american, USA, in a relationship
what's up with me: incredibly shy child, shy teen to adulthood. Was bullied for being ethnic minority which fueled a world-view that I wasn't worth anything/didn't deserve anything. no friends, etc. you all already know the deal...
what I did to solve it: I spent a lot of time doing research on this in terms of how to think and etc. I bought books and tapes like Tony Robbins, Dr. Phil, dating books, etc. What do you know, all that stuff worked. I practiced the things I learned.
what happened: up until then I never went out, never had gf, etc. At age 24 I started the aforementioned treatment and at age 25 my confidence went through the roof. I started travelling, meeting girls, etc. Eventually found my first gf at age 26. But seriously, 26? Talk about late, and I still feel awful that it took me so long just to cross that one hurdle that most 'normal' people do when they're 10 years younger.
who I am now: I've made lots of progress. I'm not deathly afraid of situations like I used to be. Unfortunately I still have a lot of problems. Still have a hell of a time looking people in the eye, but only sometimes (??). Still feel awful like I don't want to bother people, self-esteem/confidence still needs work. Still HATE the phone. Still have a hard time generally talking. Tons and tons of symptoms I don't want to go into because there are so many. Also, I've realized that this stuff is stopping me cold from being the best I can be and having a great career. I've had the same job forever, and while I like it, it's too easy. I don't have to think too hard, I just do chores instead of being as creative or social as I could be. I am stuck making a certain amount of money/job position etc.
At any rate I am here to make friends, I hope. Also, I am at a later stage in life (relatively) but still sorta young (sorta) and have gone through lots in my attempts to get over this awful bs. And frankly I think I have a lot of good info I could pass on to you guys if you don't mind hearing about my silly adventures and the observations I made/learned to get to the "ok" point that I am at now (as opposed to the "awful" point I was at 10 years ago). Plus I still need major help too.
stats: 33, male, asian-american, USA, in a relationship
what's up with me: incredibly shy child, shy teen to adulthood. Was bullied for being ethnic minority which fueled a world-view that I wasn't worth anything/didn't deserve anything. no friends, etc. you all already know the deal...
what I did to solve it: I spent a lot of time doing research on this in terms of how to think and etc. I bought books and tapes like Tony Robbins, Dr. Phil, dating books, etc. What do you know, all that stuff worked. I practiced the things I learned.
what happened: up until then I never went out, never had gf, etc. At age 24 I started the aforementioned treatment and at age 25 my confidence went through the roof. I started travelling, meeting girls, etc. Eventually found my first gf at age 26. But seriously, 26? Talk about late, and I still feel awful that it took me so long just to cross that one hurdle that most 'normal' people do when they're 10 years younger.
who I am now: I've made lots of progress. I'm not deathly afraid of situations like I used to be. Unfortunately I still have a lot of problems. Still have a hell of a time looking people in the eye, but only sometimes (??). Still feel awful like I don't want to bother people, self-esteem/confidence still needs work. Still HATE the phone. Still have a hard time generally talking. Tons and tons of symptoms I don't want to go into because there are so many. Also, I've realized that this stuff is stopping me cold from being the best I can be and having a great career. I've had the same job forever, and while I like it, it's too easy. I don't have to think too hard, I just do chores instead of being as creative or social as I could be. I am stuck making a certain amount of money/job position etc.
At any rate I am here to make friends, I hope. Also, I am at a later stage in life (relatively) but still sorta young (sorta) and have gone through lots in my attempts to get over this awful bs. And frankly I think I have a lot of good info I could pass on to you guys if you don't mind hearing about my silly adventures and the observations I made/learned to get to the "ok" point that I am at now (as opposed to the "awful" point I was at 10 years ago). Plus I still need major help too.
. Also, I certainly wouldn't consider you to be at a "later stage of life" lol. I'll be 27 in a few weeks & though that's younger than you & older than a lot of the people on this forum... I'm certainly not in a later stage of life. Not even mid. 