who here lives with room mates?

[missjesss]

I am contemplating on moving into a shared rental so I can push myself to be around people more often considering my job is at a desk all day and I don't associate with people.

I have lived on my own for just over a year now and I don't think it's doing me any justice...

thoughts/advice and experiences please!!!

 

[hoddesdon]

You must be really careful about who you share with, though. It can be either heaven or hell. I have experienced both.

 

[Nanita]

I have lived alone different places, and I have lived in shared appartments, and also in a building for students where everybody shared the same kitchen.

At times I have been able to make friends with some people, which was great and very surprising to me that I managed to participate in anything social. But then there were times where I didnt have any friends, didnt talk to anybody really. I was shy/anxious and really uncomfortable being looked at/talked to everyday, not being able to go to my own place with nobody to notice me.

 

[blackgatescross]

I think that it is better to live with other people in the long run. I know it can be hard and I find it tiresome sometimes.

At the moment, I am living with weird video gamers with whom I have nothing in common with, but I would rather live with them than on my own. in my experience (or lack of) social isolation can be more damaging in the long run.

When you move in with randoms, it is a roll of the dice. It may be great and you may click with them, or it could be a complete disaster. Even if it is, at least you can look back and say that you gave it a shot .

 

[twiggle]

You should definitely do it - and good on you for merely having the idea and being willing to do so.

hoddesdon makes a good point though, you should be careful about who you live with. Definitely meet the people first and possibly even move in on a trial basis. Make sure you're happy with the cleanliness of the place you are viewing - that's a good way of seeing if you're on the same wavelength.

When I lived with people at University, I found that it encouraged me to be more social and not just stay in my room alone all the time. Obviously I could still have those quiet moments, but in moderation. I didn't want to appear anti-social so sometimes I'd leave my room and knock on a flatmate's door... go in for a chat and a cup of tea... and feel a lot better afterwards for having done so.

Do it do it do it!!

 

[Marund]

I have a japanese room mate who is super quiet, and we dont have anything in common but it works out. She really wants to go out on the weekends and i feel bad if i dont go along, i always feel better when i go out.

i have had a lot of room mates before this, some good, some bad, but its all a learning experience. embrace whatever happens and just roll with it. Good luck.

 

[Duraldo]

I attempted to have someone live with me, it lasted 4 days, and I kicked them out, told them if I saw them again I would kill them. They did something that is really unacceptable that I don't wanna discuss. So yeah, not getting a roomate EVER

 

[missjesss]

Duraldo

At least you had the confidence to kick them out GOOD ON YOU haha so how can you have a social phobia then correct me!? ;p

 

[Horatio]

Over the past nine years I've lived with about 35 - 40 different people. Crazy to actually try and remember them all, if I struggled I probably could.

Sharing your living area with people you barely know can have up and down sides.

I've had some terrible times when I've let others take advantage of me, which with social anxiety is far too easy to let happen. Watch out for that, especially when it comes to sharing the bills.

On the other hand I've had some fantastic successes with making good friends with people who I wouldn't have otherwise met through my daily life. A number of them are good friends to this day. They make it all worthwhile despite some of the negative experiences.

Recently I moved into my own place for the first time ever, as I was getting tired of living with others and with my depression getting worse I really wanted to have my own 'screaming space' where I could just do what I wanted without having to pretend to be jovial. I'm loving it but getting more isolated for sure.