Anonymous
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Hey, I'm just looking for a bit of advice, and hopefully some feedback from anyone who has experience similar situations as I have.
I think the term social phobic could be used to describe me. However, what is interesting is that I think of myself as only being an initial social phobic. By this I mean that the first time I do things I am terrified of them but then the second time I do them I am fine. This second time can come as little as a few seconds later. To give you an example, I'm pretty scared of making phone calls, mainly calls to important people. Today I made one such call and completed it, but was pretty nervous the entire time. I turned around, not 2 or 3 minutes later made another similar call and had plenty of confidence. Even though I hadn't done very well with the previous call the new one was no problem at all. Similar situations happened to me in college. The first comment I made in class was terrifying experience but after that I was perfectly fine and could speak my mind without any real nervousness.
The interesting thing about my condition however is that my "confidence" doesn't seem to carry over from day to day. For instance, if I made another similar phone call tomorrow I would be nervous all over again and if I made a second phone call I would be fine.
This really pisses me off, does anyone have any advice on approaching situations with confidence the first time? Thanks.
I think the term social phobic could be used to describe me. However, what is interesting is that I think of myself as only being an initial social phobic. By this I mean that the first time I do things I am terrified of them but then the second time I do them I am fine. This second time can come as little as a few seconds later. To give you an example, I'm pretty scared of making phone calls, mainly calls to important people. Today I made one such call and completed it, but was pretty nervous the entire time. I turned around, not 2 or 3 minutes later made another similar call and had plenty of confidence. Even though I hadn't done very well with the previous call the new one was no problem at all. Similar situations happened to me in college. The first comment I made in class was terrifying experience but after that I was perfectly fine and could speak my mind without any real nervousness.
The interesting thing about my condition however is that my "confidence" doesn't seem to carry over from day to day. For instance, if I made another similar phone call tomorrow I would be nervous all over again and if I made a second phone call I would be fine.
This really pisses me off, does anyone have any advice on approaching situations with confidence the first time? Thanks.