Jayce
Member
"...3) Personal qualities that bullies find irresistible
Targets of bullying usually have these qualities:
· popularity (this stimulates jealousy in the less-than-popular bully)
· competence (this stimulates envy in the less-than-competent bully)
· intelligence and intellect
· honesty and integrity (which bullies despise)
· you're trustworthy, trusting, conscientious, loyal and dependable
· a well-developed integrity which you're unwilling to compromise
· you're always willing to go that extra mile and expect others to do the same
· successful, tenacious, determined, courageous, having fortitude
· a sense of humour, including displays of quick-wittedness
· imaginative, creative, innovative
· idealistic, optimistic, always working for improvement and betterment of self, family, the employer, and the world
· ability to master new skills
· ability to think long term and to see the bigger picture
· sensitivity (this is a constellation of values to be cherished including empathy, concern for others, respect, tolerance etc)
· slow to anger
· helpful, always willing to share knowledge and experience
· giving and selfless
· difficulty saying no
· diligent, industrious
· tolerant
· strong sense of honour
· irrepressible, wanting to tackle and correct injustice wherever you see it
· an inability to value oneself whilst attributing greater importance and validity to other people's opinions of oneself (eg through tests, exams, appraisals, manager's feedback, etc)
· low propensity to violence (ie you prefer to resolve conflict through dialogue rather than through violence or legal action)
· a strong forgiving streak (which the bully exploits and manipulates to dissuade you from taking grievance and legal action)
· a desire to always think well of others
· being incorruptible, having high moral standards which you are unwilling to compromise
· being unwilling to lower standards
· a strong well-defined set of values which you are unwilling to compromise or abandon
· high expectations of those in authority and a dislike of incompetent people in positions of power who abuse power
· a tendency to self-deprecation, indecisiveness, deference and approval seeking
· low assertiveness
· a need to feel valued
· quick to apologise when accused, even if not guilty (this is a useful technique for defusing an aggressive customer or potential road rage incident)
· perfectionism
· higher-than-average levels of dependency, naivety and guilt
· a strong sense of fair play and a desire to always be reasonable
· high coping skills under stress, especially when the injury to health becomes apparent
· a tendency to internalise anger rather than express it ..."
http://www.bullyoffline.org
Targets of bullying usually have these qualities:
· popularity (this stimulates jealousy in the less-than-popular bully)
· competence (this stimulates envy in the less-than-competent bully)
· intelligence and intellect
· honesty and integrity (which bullies despise)
· you're trustworthy, trusting, conscientious, loyal and dependable
· a well-developed integrity which you're unwilling to compromise
· you're always willing to go that extra mile and expect others to do the same
· successful, tenacious, determined, courageous, having fortitude
· a sense of humour, including displays of quick-wittedness
· imaginative, creative, innovative
· idealistic, optimistic, always working for improvement and betterment of self, family, the employer, and the world
· ability to master new skills
· ability to think long term and to see the bigger picture
· sensitivity (this is a constellation of values to be cherished including empathy, concern for others, respect, tolerance etc)
· slow to anger
· helpful, always willing to share knowledge and experience
· giving and selfless
· difficulty saying no
· diligent, industrious
· tolerant
· strong sense of honour
· irrepressible, wanting to tackle and correct injustice wherever you see it
· an inability to value oneself whilst attributing greater importance and validity to other people's opinions of oneself (eg through tests, exams, appraisals, manager's feedback, etc)
· low propensity to violence (ie you prefer to resolve conflict through dialogue rather than through violence or legal action)
· a strong forgiving streak (which the bully exploits and manipulates to dissuade you from taking grievance and legal action)
· a desire to always think well of others
· being incorruptible, having high moral standards which you are unwilling to compromise
· being unwilling to lower standards
· a strong well-defined set of values which you are unwilling to compromise or abandon
· high expectations of those in authority and a dislike of incompetent people in positions of power who abuse power
· a tendency to self-deprecation, indecisiveness, deference and approval seeking
· low assertiveness
· a need to feel valued
· quick to apologise when accused, even if not guilty (this is a useful technique for defusing an aggressive customer or potential road rage incident)
· perfectionism
· higher-than-average levels of dependency, naivety and guilt
· a strong sense of fair play and a desire to always be reasonable
· high coping skills under stress, especially when the injury to health becomes apparent
· a tendency to internalise anger rather than express it ..."
http://www.bullyoffline.org