Jacky1980
Well-known member
In the following days, I will spare some my leisure time to post some threads for all the social phobia sufferers in this forum to do self-help. Today I want to say something about the main obstacle.
sense of social phobia
How to comprehend such a phrase, it means if you believe you have social phobia, then you really have social phobia, if you never have that kind of thoughts, however many social phobia symptoms you have, you will never have social phobia. Here I must emphasize that “social phobia” and “social phobia symptom” are 2 completely different conceptions. Let me give you an example, back in my university, I had very severe social phobia, I never dared to show my real self, always wearing a mask, pretended to be brave, strong and talktive, but it made me very very tired and more and more timid. But I have a classmate, at first I thought he was also a very severe social phobia sufferer like me, because he shew very obvious symptoms: blush, tremble, stutter……even more severe than me I thought, but I was wrong, he never had social phobia, he never wear a mask but show the real himself whereever he is, if he blushed, jut let himself blush, if he trembled, just let himself tremble……so without fighting the nature, as time went by, he naturally became more and more confiecent and talktive, it was real confidence rather that the fruit of pretense. Because I was always pretending, so however mush I exposed or pretended, I would never rid myself of inconfidence deep in my heart, becauce I was always fighting the nature, human being will never defeat the nature, surrend to the nature, you will have a peaceful mind.
So friends. Actually there is no social phobia in this world, it is an outcome of over attention to yourself, if you believe you have social phobia and you must cure it before you live a normal life, you will never escape from the hell, just live the normal life as normal people do, with a real self, you will see the sunshine.
That’s all for today, next time I will write something about how to correctly expose yourself
sense of social phobia
How to comprehend such a phrase, it means if you believe you have social phobia, then you really have social phobia, if you never have that kind of thoughts, however many social phobia symptoms you have, you will never have social phobia. Here I must emphasize that “social phobia” and “social phobia symptom” are 2 completely different conceptions. Let me give you an example, back in my university, I had very severe social phobia, I never dared to show my real self, always wearing a mask, pretended to be brave, strong and talktive, but it made me very very tired and more and more timid. But I have a classmate, at first I thought he was also a very severe social phobia sufferer like me, because he shew very obvious symptoms: blush, tremble, stutter……even more severe than me I thought, but I was wrong, he never had social phobia, he never wear a mask but show the real himself whereever he is, if he blushed, jut let himself blush, if he trembled, just let himself tremble……so without fighting the nature, as time went by, he naturally became more and more confiecent and talktive, it was real confidence rather that the fruit of pretense. Because I was always pretending, so however mush I exposed or pretended, I would never rid myself of inconfidence deep in my heart, becauce I was always fighting the nature, human being will never defeat the nature, surrend to the nature, you will have a peaceful mind.
So friends. Actually there is no social phobia in this world, it is an outcome of over attention to yourself, if you believe you have social phobia and you must cure it before you live a normal life, you will never escape from the hell, just live the normal life as normal people do, with a real self, you will see the sunshine.
That’s all for today, next time I will write something about how to correctly expose yourself
I know exactly what your talkin about Jackie. I too have noticed increasing confidence lately by just letting it be, so to speak. I normally would mask my true self so that I was happy with the image of what I thought people liked in me. 