What do you look for in a relationship???

[sengd001]

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[Anonymous]

I look for kindness and intelligence. I'm not interested in anyone who is not nice. I'm out to find the sweetest, nicest, purest guy in the world...well, one that isn't related to me or too old or too young for me...but you know what I mean. And I would also prefer a smart one. I don't usually like talking to people who aren't smart.

 

[LilMissTragic]

Theres only one thing I look for...and thats the ability to be able to laugh at themselves.

 

[Crimefish]

1) I think sex is kinda important... or so I've read in books. There's plenty of space for intelligent/spiratual/nice/whatever friends. A partner needs to be someone I can have sex with. Or at least, if I have a partner who I'm not physically attracted to, I don't want him to be physically attracted to me either.
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2) I want an amazingly kind, handsome, funny, honest, intelligent partner. I know a guy like that, but he's taken (surprisingly). At least we're friends though.

 

[Crimefish]

Yes, I understand and agree with you... I wish I could be more clear. I mean it's acceptable to converse with anyone, but your partner is the only person you're supposed to have sex with. So If you have a partner you're not attracted to physically (like I had) I don't think "Bye hun, just popping over to see a male prostitute." would go over too well. Whereas going to talk to a friend would be fine.
Sex isn't that important to me, but I don't want a partner who wants to when I don't. Which happens to me way too often.

 

[Anonymous]

I'm not trying to criticize anyone, but I'm curious...Am I the only person in the world that doesn't care about or want sex? I believe that it was meant for reproductive purposes only. I don't think it was meant to be a reacreational activity. I think it is much more meaningful to talk to your partner and feel internal love for each other than to do nasty stuff with them. I feel no need for physical attraction or physical contact in a romatic relationship. I think sharing your feelings and being nice to each other is a lot more important, and I don't think physical things matter at all. When I grow up and get married, I'm going to marry a soul, not a body.

 

[Anonymous]

I'm wondering...Are there any Quakers here?

 

[Anonymous]

Oh...right...sorry, worrydoll. i didn't read very carefully

 

[Crimefish]

Bah. I'm trying to say I agree (maybe I have multiple personalities so I feel different about this than I did with my first post in this thread) except my partner may not feel the same way. So I'd end up with a guy who wants a sexual relationship when I don't, so he'd either leave me, or just have more than one partner. Sigh. Reading this through, I don't think it's actually relevant, but I'm gonna post it anyway 'cause I'm an idiot.

P.S. HiApeNest, you're not the only one. Except I don't think sex is nasty... depending how you do it. And who with.

 

[Foxface]

Love, honesty, trust. Pretty much the same thing someone would look for in a best friend. Someone to be there for me, someone to hang out with and do stuff with. I would do the same for them.

I believe in being equal. We both understand each other and there to support and help one another as best we can. That's what keeps a relationship strong. True love.

Someone to love me like a best friend and know me like sibling.