What Are Normal People's Standards

Phobologist

Phobologist

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Hi everyone. Another way of looking at our social phobia is from the perspective of the people we are afraid of. All of us feel we are not good enough. We all feel we are unlikeable, or bad people, and that we are worthless. We all believe others should not like us. After all, if they are the one's being unreasonable, then why do WE get so upset? So, it might help us to think about exactly what are these standards that everyone else has?

Please share what you believe are the typical standards of those people you would like to befriend or date. After you have done so, read the bottom of this post:


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I would like to suggest two things: (1) people's standards are probably more varied than we think. (2) People's standards probably aren't as severe as we think. (3) We have bad (mostly imagined) information on people's standards. (4) People's standards don't match our own.

What are some ways we can investigate whether or not others hold the standards we believe them to? Has anyone posted a standard that you can clearly show to be false? If so, provide evidence.

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A. Submitted by Blue-Roses:

1. Able to string a sentence together without blushing.
2. Good at making conversation and not a drain or a "wet blanket".
3. Makes them them feel good about themselves by actively taking an interest in them.
 
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ApRiLGeTsAngry77

ApRiLGeTsAngry77

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I prefer the word average instead of normal. I think the average person is not really thinking about us or judging us as much as we think. We are all worried about our own selves so an average person is probably doing the same thing.
 
Justas

Justas

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Jake123 said:
Normal people's standards are ridiculously high.
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What do you mean by saying high? As I look at them they talk much more than they really do. Sometimes they say their opinion after a half a year ask the same question and they will answer it differently. Sometimes people say how wrong you were, but after a while the same people in the same situation act the same like you... People change their own standards more than they piss.
 
blue-roses

blue-roses

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Normal people want to befriend someone who can string a sentence together without blushing (our blushing makes them feel awkward, too), someone who is good at making conversation and not a drain or a "wet blanket", and makes them feel good about themselves by actively taking an interest in them.

This was a really good question to ask, because I racked my brains to think of something that showed I was a bad person and that people wouldn't want to be around me, and the only undesirable things I could realistically think of were related to my anxiety. Now, if only I could get rid of that...
 
zlench

zlench

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Nobody is ever normal. I think it just comes from what the media wants people to act like!
 
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