Weird Nervousness

[spw1234]

Hi I am sixteen, and will remain anonymous-- I had always been a happy, confident child. I always smiled, always laughed, and I made friends extremely easily. I was the girl everybody wanted to be around. It was not until I moved to another city, Anaheim Hills, from Burbank, my childhood home, that I began losing confidence. I don't know why this happened, but it was around sixth grade that I became a little shy around others. I was not always shy, I still approached people and made many friends, but it didn't come as easily to me anymore. It was finally the middle of tenth grade year, where my life started to completely change. All of a sudden, after Christmas break, I began feeling uncomfortable--not only around others, but my family, too! Like, I would look at them with a type of fear in my eyes, making them feel uncomfortable as well. My parents have spoken to me about this...thinking it is just hormones, but I think there is more to it, because I know hormones don't change a person THAT much. The sad thing is that I have never really been able to recover from it. I am currently in 11th grade- I do well in school and music, but everything in my life is difficult for me. I can't help but feel that I am worrying constantly about everything. I have made multiple attempts to become my happy, confident self again, but it has been undoubtedly hard for me. Sometimes I cry by myself, because I hate the way I am. Do you have a hard time keeping eye contact with others? cus I do. I hate that I am "complaining", but I have been struggling with this for a while. Even around my friends, I feel uncomfortable for like no reason and it is ridiculous. Even around my parents and my other family members, they can sense that I am different, and I see that they are uncomfortable. I desperately need help or some advice, please. Thanks.

P.S. I dont think that my moving situation had a great impact on my situation now...I think it is my unexpected change in tenth grade--I don't even know what sparked that change in the first place!

 

[dazedandconfused]

Start a journal. Start at the beginning of your memory. Don't leave anything out. I just started one a week ago and I feel so relieved, calm, and uplifted after I make my daily entries.
Pm me if you want to talk at all. I went through the same problems, except I've come out of mine in my sophomore year. Life is too short to waste time being shy.

 

[gale]

its good for you that you live in a world where people can understand sa.unlike me i live in a country where sa is unheard of ,whenever i discuss it with others they dont believe me .so you are more lucky than i am.how i wish i live in a country like yours where sa can be tolerated in a discussion.even my family cant understand what im talking about they would just brand as just being shy.

 

[Septor]

Yea it sound like it could be sa.It's normal for the onset of sa and depression to hit in the teenage years.It not complaining or your fault.You have been struggle with this for a while know it sounds like.You can't be expected to handle this all by your self,it will only get worse.

You really need to sit down with your parents and have a discussion about the way you have been feeling with them.Get some stuff off the internet to show them when you talk to them and talk to them about seeing a doctor or therapist.If that does not work i'm sure there are guidance counselor at your school that you can talk to.The most important thing is to get help when your young because it much easy then.

Good luck on getting help spw1234 and remember there are people here that will listern to you if you ever need someone to talk to.

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

This is a very old thread but I'm sure some of us may be able to relate. I can! I believe this problem is really a neuro-chemical imbalance. I sometimes feel awkward around my family too. My problem also started in my teen years and many years later, I still have SA.

 

[economist]

wow
story of my life right there

even ur location...

wonder how ur doing now

 

[mikebird]

Changing school affected me

Do people latch onto people? (= friends) Give or Take?

So many factors play a part.

I learn from you that the discomfort can cause family to see you differently. I don't think that will ever change for me. Once I acquired a new life independently, I was extremely glad to leave parents, with surrounding family behind. It was the opposite with swapping school early. I regret not staying there. I think my family see me as an eager runaway person. They never liked me, and now dislike me further, although that's a plain assumption, as we do not communicate

I can't really plot my entire story. I spend too long thinking about my caused. SPW is the most helpful factor - learning from others. I don't think I'll ever know if it was natural in my genes to make me the person nobody want to be around because I'm strange. I made a lot of friends over time. I don't really do it myself. I'm lucky to get befriended on common interests, and nothing else.