Voice, more to do with it than I thought?

[pinkputter]

Who else with SA dislikes their voice???

I really don't think i have a *bad* voice, and i've definitely heard less appealing voices than mine ... like the nanny for instance

But lately ive thought maybe thats where my SA stems from? But then I'm like how come people, like fran drescher, whoever, those people with less pleasing voices don't have one apprehension about how they sound?

So i'm not sure if its directly related. But I do know it would be nice to feel confident with my voice cause I really dont. I'm soft spoken and even if what i have to say has truth to it .. I feel like cause of my voice not being as strong as other people it's overlooked.

Now is when I wish my parents got me voice lessons growing up like some friends of mine! It really is important to feel comfortable with your voice.... I dont know ive been thinking about this randomly........ Replies are appreciated cause i wanted to see how it relates to SA!

 

[Joker]

But lately ive thought maybe thats where my SA stems from?

It's definitely a possibility. I think insecurities are one of, if not the biggest contributors to SA. They're like fuel for the fire.

One thing to consider though, is that when you speak, you hear your voice very differently from how others hear it. I swear every time I check the voice mail on my cell, I can't believe that's how I sound.

Now is when I wish my parents got me voice lessons growing up like some friends of mine!

You might actually be able to give yourself those lessons. (yes this might be a little corny, but hear me out :wink: ) If you have any kind of recording device, you could practice speaking and play it back to yourself to critique. If you don't like how it sounds, try adjusting your pitch, volume, etc. until you hear something acceptable.

OR.......

You could work on changing your mindset on how you perceive your voice to be! More than likely you don't have a "bad" voice, and if polled, 99% of your peers would probably have no problem with it. As you said, it could be a lot worse. *cough* nanny *cough*

So now that I'm done offering advice you never asked for, I'll answer the question!

In short, yes I feel that any insecurity a person has is going to strongly contribute to their SA.

 

[Moonie]

I think my voice is a big problem for me, too. I have always had a soft voice and had to repeat myself many times in the past. It's getting a little better, but it's still very quiet. I am not sure if the SA caused this or if my voice caused SA.

I wrote a post about this a little while back, and one poster said something that I thought was very poignant. He said be proud of your voice and what you can say. Imagine if you couldn't speak at all?

 

[jennn]

I think my voice is a big problem for me, too. I have always had a soft voice and had to repeat myself many times in the past. It's getting a little better, but it's still very quiet. I am not sure if the SA caused this or if my voice caused SA.

that's a good point. i have a low voice too and nobody can ever hear me, though i always think i'm speaking normally. i am a little uncomfortable with the way i talk (i don't always speak clearly and mumble a little) so that could be part of the problem, or vice versa.

 

[JamesMorgan]

pinkputter

Good speaking to you, i hope you hear this loud and clear : - )

Maybe these questions will help you find what you are looking for...

What is it you know when you hear your voice? - You say, thats my voice! You know it's your voice.

Where does that voice come from and how does it differ to the 'voice in your head?'

Is the voice in your head your real voice? Is the sound that seems to come from your mouth your real voice? And why cant i voice whats in my head?

Its like there are two voices, almost contradicting, an inner voice and an outer voice. When these are in harmony your real voice will come from your heart (not a physical location) and there will be no problem. Its because we see the contradiction between the two that problems arise.

If you know your real voice is at the pure source of your heart, it wont matter how loud or soft it appears to be. A true, pure voice can shatter a thousand worlds and heal a thousand hearts.

James

 

[pinkputter]

James,

Good speaking with you as well.

Thank you for that. A true voice IS what a voice is anyway. What is perceived in a societal sense is what is a false voice. Thank you for reminding me of that.

I hope you are doing well and Peace be with you.

 

[pookie]

that's a good point. i have a low voice too and nobody can ever hear me, though i always think i'm speaking normally. i am a little uncomfortable with the way i talk (i don't always speak clearly and mumble a little) so that could be part of the problem, or vice versa.

I have the same problem. since i was a kid people have told me that they can't hear me when i speak.I hear myself and I don't see the problem. It sucks!!!
Sometimes i mumble, or dont speak clearly as well.

 

[Kinetik]

I think voice is probably the biggest factor in determining how people interpret you and in influencing their assessment of how confident you are. In combination with posture and general mannerisms it's basicly everything as far as outward appearances are concerned. I've been working hard on these three things the past few years and I have to say it's helped me so much. I'm even told I come across as self-assured, which to me is baffling, because I still always feel general anxiety on the inside. In any case, it's nice to know that I don't radiate ineptness the way I know I used to.

 

[JamesMorgan]

We may seem confident on the outside to others yet on the inside we are still anxious. I noticed this in myself a while back. Its like i had learnt to mould myself around the good opinion of others, i had become good at appearing confident and strong.

It wasnt until i realised that it doesnt matter how you 'appear' to others its how you feel inside that really matters that i ceased being a puppet driven by the reactions of other people. This is when real confidence started shining through. Wow, what a relief, what freedom!

You will never be who people want you to be, that depends on them. Being your self is a choice that has to be made. Speaking from your heart, not from the puppet of our own mind we become because we expect that this is what people are wanting to see and hear, hiding in fear of their view of us.

James

 

[pinkputter]

Schizophrenia, much like every other disorder, is just an exagerated characteristic that every human has, but is exagerated...

I.M.O we all have 2 voices inside of ourselves.... like what happens with schizophrenia. Now, the reason why we have those voices depends on who you ask. It is my belief that we all have good and evil conflicting around us, therefore our thoughts reflect that. And there is ultimately Truth in us all... but we have to decide what is good and evil for ourselves...


Hopefully that makes any sense whatsoever