MMGiru
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So I'm rarely aware of my own intentions in any particular, but I've recently made some vague attempts to feel connected to feel connected to the rest of the species. Being me, this was a) through the Internet, and b) tentative.
Now, there are apparently places in this digital scape whose purpose is to perform that same function I was seeking. To settle the issue of social networking: I've not participated in such ventures for some years, and have minimal intention of changing that.
More to the point are such places as this which, rather than their intended effect, leave me acutely aware that I am a recluse, and do not engage in any such cozy pastimes. And yet I know at least one person -- a dear friend -- who derived comfort from the place.
I recently jumped into the text-only version of Omegle, since the place is meant to fling you into conversation with random and anonymous folk. Rather than that, it has proved a cesspit of bots and people -- all men, apparently -- looking for cybersex. Real conversations are few and far between, and while I managed to make a single friend in that shady venue, the place was mostly disheartening and soul-crushing.
Last on my agenda is a particular subreddit called 'cuddlebuddies'. I'm not especially a redditor; made an account the other day, and have not since done anything significant with it. This place -- whose function is for people to hook up for platonic cuddling -- seemed something that I could approach with a sort of optimistic caution. This again proved an unfortunate decision, as no one of my preferred gender (female) who posted appeared to have been within a hundred miles of here. Reading the individual threads made me wonder how often the various OPs find success in their endeavors.
The thing is, I know this is not the appropriate way to go about such a search. Ideally, you meet someone with common interests and thinking, and then share some measure of contact with them. I didn't especially care. And this is setting aside the fact that currently, I do not meet people, at all.
So I'm just... I don't even know. Complaining? Quite possibly. But I'm feeling some deep disconnect with the rest of the species, and I guess I'd like to hear different people's (or indeed peoples') thoughts. Has anyone else visited these sorts of sites, and found them similarly unsatisfactory? Or has anyone met success in these sorts of venues?
Now, there are apparently places in this digital scape whose purpose is to perform that same function I was seeking. To settle the issue of social networking: I've not participated in such ventures for some years, and have minimal intention of changing that.
More to the point are such places as this which, rather than their intended effect, leave me acutely aware that I am a recluse, and do not engage in any such cozy pastimes. And yet I know at least one person -- a dear friend -- who derived comfort from the place.
I recently jumped into the text-only version of Omegle, since the place is meant to fling you into conversation with random and anonymous folk. Rather than that, it has proved a cesspit of bots and people -- all men, apparently -- looking for cybersex. Real conversations are few and far between, and while I managed to make a single friend in that shady venue, the place was mostly disheartening and soul-crushing.
Last on my agenda is a particular subreddit called 'cuddlebuddies'. I'm not especially a redditor; made an account the other day, and have not since done anything significant with it. This place -- whose function is for people to hook up for platonic cuddling -- seemed something that I could approach with a sort of optimistic caution. This again proved an unfortunate decision, as no one of my preferred gender (female) who posted appeared to have been within a hundred miles of here. Reading the individual threads made me wonder how often the various OPs find success in their endeavors.
The thing is, I know this is not the appropriate way to go about such a search. Ideally, you meet someone with common interests and thinking, and then share some measure of contact with them. I didn't especially care. And this is setting aside the fact that currently, I do not meet people, at all.
So I'm just... I don't even know. Complaining? Quite possibly. But I'm feeling some deep disconnect with the rest of the species, and I guess I'd like to hear different people's (or indeed peoples') thoughts. Has anyone else visited these sorts of sites, and found them similarly unsatisfactory? Or has anyone met success in these sorts of venues?
