Valentines Day

[Lotrsfan]

Anyone feeling a little bit sad because they have not got anyone special to spend it with?

I am I won't be able to give a special someone presents and card.I won't be able to go out for a special meal with someone (or i'd probably refuse anyway because i hate eating out :lol: ) oreven go to the cinema with (that's not so bad )

My sister's got a boyfriend. I'm not jealous because she's going out with him, because one he's younger than me, and two i don't fancy him and three he's going out with my sister. But i'm abit you no envious because she's got someone and she can celebrate it with someone special so it's her first real Valentine's Day i guess.

I worry because i know i won't get someone. I'll be alone for the rest of my life. I'm so shy around guys and men and when i'm going somewhere where there are guys there, none of them seem interested, they ignore me and don't make an effort to really speak to me. ( though i guess in a small way it's because they are shy too, and don't know how to approach me )but it's not really my thing to do, i think it should be the guy who makes the first move, if he likes a girl. I'm not that really bothered right now in a small way but i'm 20 and i should have a biyfriend right now and possibly a child and my life is getting on and i know that i'll be alone and even a virgin forever. I guess alot of people feel like this, even people without shyness and social phobia problems but i really really just know that i will be. :? and it kinda makes me feel sad, specially when i see my sister with a boyfriend and all these other girls and guys going out with each other.

Anyone else really do feel they'll be alone forever and is kinda scared?

 

[nimrodel]

I completely understand. I've really been starting to feel like that recently and I feel.. pressured to move on and meet new people and get into any kind of relationship. It's so easy to let that depress you but sometimes, people just find each other later in life. After all, it's better to be alone and okay than together with someone and just plain miserable. You just have to busy yourself with something so you don't dwell on it too much. It must be especially hard if your sister is seeing someone though. I just try not to think about it too much. Twenty is really young and you never know what the next day may bring.

 

[mienaino]

Anyone else really do feel they'll be alone forever and is kinda scared?

That thought does bother me from time to time. But I tend to balance that out with a bit of self-loathing and things seem to work out, in a dystopian sort of way. Cynical wit gets me through some days, but most days involve clawing at the ground in front of me with broken arms and fingers. Valentines Day is small fries in the overtly horrible world that I've construed out of my mezzanine view, so it doesn't factor in to much of the torture of daily life. And I have become somewhat numb and unresponsive. Rather, for me, Valentines is an icing on the cake. Like many cultural landmarks, posters, neon flashing marquees and marketing robots spewing warm fuzzy messages about people and life and love, the image of Valentines is just another reminder of something painfully inaccessible. It is just a letter in the towering Arbeit Macht Frie emblazoned gate over the overgrown entrance to my world.
I suggest that you keep in mind that Valentines is a marketed holiday (as in, a holiday which is marketed). It doesn't really carry the message that television adverts would have you believe. It isn't as culturally important as it is economically important. Failure to participate in it, in such a way as you would like, carries little actual weight compared to the importance of a completely normal day in your life. Send cards and candy to your relatives, your friends (if you have any), and if you're masochistic, to someone whom you admire but have no meaningful relationship with (assuming someone in--or around--your life fits this description). I'm sending cookies to my sister this Valentines, and frankly, it's more than I did last year.