Urge to socialize

[rado31]

Hello.

I do this forever. Is this ocd? How to treat it? It seemes like everyone else is much important than me, i m always availabe while others are not. It gives me a total frustration and emotional confusion. Basically as only child of my parents i always tried to be a member of various groups of people but always failed. I came to the point that i do not enjoy socializing in any way. Obviously i was wrong somehow when so deperately trying to fit in. Maybe i couldnot feet in? Is this some kind of a masterplan for me? Ok, enough. I dont believe that this is ocd or other sick psyche stuff just wanted to put a message in this part of site :?

 

[blackdeath]

Most of people who have ocd has also some other symptoms. Just make a search about ocd and discover yourself.

But it doesn't look like ocd..

 

[Infected_Malignity]

That hurts to hear. I think everybody knows what that's like. Just trying to fit in, trying to find your place. That can be such an awful experience.

I hope so much that you can start to see the individuality in yourself. You don't need a specific group, or clique, or gang, or ANYTHING to prove your self worth. The greatest part about self acceptance is the simple fact that you can start right now - the only person you need to prove anything to is to yourself.

I say you should take some time to reflect. Nurture your soul, so to speak. In other words: Give yourself some love

 

[rado31]

hello infected,

i hope your non-sense optimism is infectious, but probably not.

there are this one particular reason why is so hard for me to accept myself. it is called shyness in men and it is considerd as a total disaster.
Not by me, but the whole humanity. Men_are_not_supposed_to_be_shy.

Even 99 percent girls on this site wont consider uber-shy man in any stadium of their menstrual cycle.

 

[Infected_Malignity]

Besides yourself, who else considers you to be a total disaster? I doubt anybody else does. You might think so, but it's probably just ideas of reference.

Look, maybe I am being overly-optimistic about it, but you're giving shyness too much power by acting like it's a disease. By saying "The real reason I don't like myself is because I have SHYNESS!", the only message you're sending to yourself is "I'm helpless, and I have nothing to do with the creation of my problem". Not that there's anything wrong with that, but it may be why you're stuck in the overcoming phase.

As a side note, I personally think you're the total opposite of a 'total disaster'. Just because you have shyness doesn't mean you're a failure. And no, most women aren't going to think so, either. In fact, some might even find it to be a good, honest trait.

So hey, you don't have to take my advice or do anything drastic here. Just trying to help out. Rock on