Hey,
I'm new to the forum, so apologies if this is an old, trite issue. But I'm just looking for some direction...
I'm ugly. I've been oblivious to this and unsure about it at different points in my life. But I'm pretty sure this is the case. I can look in the mirror, but cannot bear photos of myself. In fact, I was a decent actor earlier in life -- securing roles on tv and everything -- but couldn't stand the sight of myself, and became so self-conscious that I lost just about all concentration (critical for an actor) and, in turn my talent...Anyhow, at this point I'm pretty sure I am ugly and that it is exacerbated by other things about me that I won't disclose just yet. The resultant self-consciousness, coupled perhaps with an incompatible personality, has messed up my social skills and rendered me completely isolated, including from my family...
I think what would really help me is some kind of therapy that helps one accept ugliness. I've tried talk/cognitive behavioral therapy, but have found it under-effective so far. It's like the therapists are even uncomfortable with the subject...I'm thinking that there MUST be some kind of therapy that helps ugly folk deal in this lookist world (which I, ironically, contribute to).
There are things I want to do, particularly in the community service realm. I want to have a positive impact on my community and this hang-up is holding me back.
Any leads would be much appreciated.
Thanks
I'm new to the forum, so apologies if this is an old, trite issue. But I'm just looking for some direction...
I'm ugly. I've been oblivious to this and unsure about it at different points in my life. But I'm pretty sure this is the case. I can look in the mirror, but cannot bear photos of myself. In fact, I was a decent actor earlier in life -- securing roles on tv and everything -- but couldn't stand the sight of myself, and became so self-conscious that I lost just about all concentration (critical for an actor) and, in turn my talent...Anyhow, at this point I'm pretty sure I am ugly and that it is exacerbated by other things about me that I won't disclose just yet. The resultant self-consciousness, coupled perhaps with an incompatible personality, has messed up my social skills and rendered me completely isolated, including from my family...
I think what would really help me is some kind of therapy that helps one accept ugliness. I've tried talk/cognitive behavioral therapy, but have found it under-effective so far. It's like the therapists are even uncomfortable with the subject...I'm thinking that there MUST be some kind of therapy that helps ugly folk deal in this lookist world (which I, ironically, contribute to).
There are things I want to do, particularly in the community service realm. I want to have a positive impact on my community and this hang-up is holding me back.
Any leads would be much appreciated.
Thanks
